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Ever heard of this? I've seen this phenomenon many times and have even had it happen to me a couple of times. On two separate occasions, a guy I liked didn't want me but as soon as I started showing interest in another guy, he tried to ruin it.
What causes this?
Is it an animal type of possessiveness/territorialness, or do they just feel good having a backup that waits for them forever and ever?
Sounds like the relationship between Kim & Kanye Kartrashian, though they're ironically married. His body language shows he doesn't want his wife (who does, really?), but flips out when somebody else lusts for his wife.
The only similarity between the guy and Ms. Kanye is that they're both jackasses (sorry for my bluntness towards this guy). Find someone and be happy, for that is your God-given right.
My ex pulled this game. She was messing about with my now former best friend before we split, she didn't want me anymore, and I was wah done with her. But when I became involved with my new lady, she tried everything she could to split us up.. Here it is, 5 years gone by now, and she still is nuts over it. Always pumping my son for intell, trying to figure out schemes.
Since she knows my new lady, going back a ways, our relationship really bothers her. Kinda odd how she can sleep with my best friend d and tell everyone she hates me so much, and be so bothered that I've moved on.
It's a normal, basic human emotion, but it's one you're supposed to outgrow by third grade.
I actually examined this sentiment this weekend when the 2 year old at our house decided she didn't want her pretzels but when her father suggested he give them to her friend, she said "No, they're mine."
Something similar happened in my brother's family. Their 2-year-old had no use for her baby sister when she was brought home from the hospital. It went beyond 'wasn't interested.' They were worried because she was initially hostile. Then they began receiving visitors to meet the baby. The minute her little toddler friends fussed over the baby, it became "MY BABY." Don't go near it, don't admire it, don't even think about taking it home. MINE!
A (platonic) female friend of mine is actually in this situation...
She's with a guy, I thought she was gf/bf with. She admitted to me that they're FWB. She doesn't want him with anyone else. I said to her why don't you just become exclusive? She claims that she "doesn't want relationship".
Something similar happened in my brother's family. Their 2-year-old had no use for her baby sister when she was brought home from the hospital. It went beyond 'wasn't interested.' They were worried because she was initially hostile. Then they began receiving visitors to meet the baby. The minute her little toddler friends fussed over the baby, it became "MY BABY." Don't go near it, don't admire it, don't even think about taking it home. MINE!
Kind of expect that with 2-3 year olds, sometimes a few years older. However, I would have hoped by 18 and up someone had out-grown that stage.
I don't know, I think it's normal (to an extent) in some situations. When I broke up with my ex after several years, I had every good reason. But it still hurt like hell when I found out she had moved on to another guy in a matter of weeks. I didn't sabotage them or anything. But even though I didn't want her, that doesn't mean the connection had disappeared that quickly, at least for me. The idea that I could be replaced so damn fast was hard to take, and if I'm honest, I didn't really want anyone else to have her. But I left that relationship all sorts of damaged, so I might not be the best example...
I've seen it happen a couple of times. I think it's the you don't know what you got untill they are gone thing. And then when said person finds someone it hits them how they felt about them. Or maybe they are just jealous of what could of been.
Yup. Control trip.
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