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MARRIED MEN:
1. Did your wives try to keep you at home? If so, why? Were they jealous? Did they think you were going to go out and get wasted at strip parlors? Were they insecure?
2. If your wives did this but changed, what made them change?
3. If your wives did this, how did you react? Did you comply, rebel, or try to seek a common ground which would allow you a measure of "guy time" with the guys every month?
1. Yes. Insecure. Yes very. No. YES.
2. N/A
3. Initially I tried to keep peace in my home, but I'm not a posession to be owned. Divorce.
Last edited by Darthfrodo; 11-27-2012 at 06:22 PM..
One of my husband's old friends asked him if he wasn't allowed to come out and play anymore lol. I think he wanted to start up some Monday night role playing game they used to do when they were kids. Oy vey. The only rule we have is that there is to be no driving drunk and generally no drunkenness when out. It's just dangerous. The fact is that married people's priorities do change, as others noted. We bought a home 30 minutes outside the city and my husband works where we live. Now it's a pain in the but for him to get into the city. I catch dinner with friends more often because I work in the city, but even that's hard. At the end of the day I'm tired. We're both tired. I'm sure having a baby sucks even more time.
With that said, I try to push my husband to stay in touch with his friends. Like many men he doesn't like to gab on the phone, so the only time he has contact these days is if there's an event/party. I'll throw a dinner party from time to time, but he never does that. Any extra time we have is usually spent with family. He'd rather go see his mom on a Sunday than head into the city. Go figure.
My husband's friends start emailing and calling me when he doesn't get back to them! They know that I'll get on to him to pick up the phone or send an email- or at least I'll send them an email myself to let them know how we are doing! He's so bad at that stuff.
My bf and I have lived together for nine years. In many respects, we live like an old married couple. I love having my own space, so I am always trying to make him get out of the house to see his guy friends. I love when he goes out of town to see family or his best friend (from his college days) in NC.
But my bf prefers staying in with me. I am his current best friend and I think that we have more common interests and opinions than he has with his guy friends.
I think in the situation that Sprawling_Homeowner is describing, a major factor in his former friend being now a homebody is because of his one year old child. He's both needed and wanted at home for sharing the childcare duties. And his friend may also really enjoy watching his child grow up.
I think in the situation that Sprawling_Homeowner is describing, a major factor in his former friend being now a homebody is because of his one year old child. He's both needed and wanted at home for sharing the childcare duties. And his friend may also really enjoy watching his child grow up.
My brother has a 10 month old son and keeps going out at night. That's no excuse.
Maybe I'm misinformed about the term then. I always thought it simply meant, you're deeply in love with your SO ..
No, it is an insult used to described a man who has allowed himself to be emasculated - always defers to his wife, never speaks up for himself, always allows his wife to be in control - simply so he can keep getting the *****.
Your brother also has a mistress and keeps going out at night - so clearly, family is not a priority to him.
He's mad about the boys, they are certainly a priority. And he only stays out 2 hours/2 hours and a half at most so his wife doesn't get suspicious.
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They know that I'll get on to him to pick up the phone or send an email- or at least I'll send them an email myself to let them know how we are doing! He's so bad at that stuff.
