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I can say, however, that I only became friends with them because I was originally pursuing them romantically. It just happened to develop into friendship. I cant think of a time where I had a really close female friend that didnt first start out with me being romantically attracted to them.
That sounds dumb. If you want to date someone, ask them out from the get go.
That sounds dumb. If you want to date someone, ask them out from the get go.
Um, no. There are plenty of reasons a guy might change his mind about pursuing a chick and be a friend instead. First and easiest one being, she's taken already.
My favorite male friend, one of my favorite human beings, immediate family aside...flirted with me from the stage at a concert. As soon as I had a chance, I told him "wow, thanks, but I'm married." He was like, that's cool, well glad to have ya as a fan anyways, and we talked on and off for years...it's five years now and we're friends and nothing but friends. Turns out, he respects the whole marriage thing. Very impressed with my 15-year run, in fact.
That sounds dumb. If you want to date someone, ask them out from the get go.
True. It had better start this way and get to "Yay or nay" right away so you know where you stand and you can move on, wasting neither party's time.
There is nothing worse in interpersonal relationships than a lopsided male-female friendship where one is more infatuated with the other, or becomes more so along the way. Been there, done that. No thanks.
I'm sorry to disappoint you all but men and women cannot be friends....sorry ladies.....the guy that you think is your "friend" is waiting for your current boyfriend/husband to mess up so he can be with you...
Hi,
I just want to put in my $.02. It can be done!! My best friend since I was 19 yo has been a male!! There has been no sexual tension between us! Guys & gals can be friends w/o the sex getting in the way!
Are you people ever going to quit digging up this dead horse? Men and Women CAN BE FRIENDS without any other motive but just to be FRIENDS. Cripes, grow up already, this is not 3rd grade and ADULTS who are mature generally act accordingly and treat their friends like friends.
I think the more realistic thought process here is the following:
Some people believe that men and women can not be just friends.
Some people believe that men and women CAN be just friends with no intention of ever hooking up/ dating/ etc.
I know at least 3 guys (one is extremely successful dating women, can get almost any wan he wants with out trying, one guy just loves being in relationships, good or bad, the other guy will date ANY woman that comes along, as long as he is having fun, he doesnt care) that will date/ sleep with/ engage romantic relationship wih almost any woman that they find attractive. UNLESS.... They have already tried it with that person. And even then, some WILL still sleep with the ex if the opportunity is there. (I have known men and women to do this)
I also know 2 women who also believe men and women can't be just friends. They have the 'knowledge' that if said woman were to become single or if already single, any guy they are friends with WILL pursue them romantically/ physically EVENTUALLY.
The people that refuse to acknowledge BOTH sides do actually exist are only considering things thru their own eyes, and not thru everyone's perspective.
So here is my truth:
Some people CAN be only friends with opposite sex, without EVER having sex, or being romantic.
Some people look at the opposite sex at romantic/ physical relationship material first, and only AFTER that avenue is exhausted, then a friendship MAY be possible. But, in most cases, these people cut off ties and although may he cordial, or consider someone an acquaintance, they will never truly consider that opposite sex person as a friend.
The question is, can YOU (not CSD in particular, but anyone reading my statement) handle the concept that BOTH conditions DO exist ?
I think the more realistic thought process here is the following:
Some people believe that men and women can not be just friends.
Some people believe that men and women CAN be just friends with no intention of ever hooking up/ dating/ etc.
I know at least 3 guys (one is extremely successful dating women, can get almost any wan he wants with out trying, one guy just loves being in relationships, good or bad, the other guy will date ANY woman that comes along, as long as he is having fun, he doesnt care) that will date/ sleep with/ engage romantic relationship wih almost any woman that they find attractive. UNLESS.... They have already tried it with that person. And even then, some WILL still sleep with the ex if the opportunity is there. (I have known men and women to do this)
I also know 2 women who also believe men and women can't be just friends. They have the 'knowledge' that if said woman were to become single or if already single, any guy they are friends with WILL pursue them romantically/ physically EVENTUALLY.
The people that refuse to acknowledge BOTH sides do actually exist are only considering things thru their own eyes, and not thru everyone's perspective.
So here is my truth:
Some people CAN be only friends with opposite sex, without EVER having sex, or being romantic.
Some people look at the opposite sex at romantic/ physical relationship material first, and only AFTER that avenue is exhausted, then a friendship MAY be possible. But, in most cases, these people cut off ties and although may he cordial, or consider someone an acquaintance, they will never truly consider that opposite sex person as a friend.
The question is, can YOU (not CSD in particular, but anyone reading my statement) handle the concept that BOTH conditions DO exist ?
Yeah. I can it's not that hard to accept for someone who is open minded and not so rigidly black and white in their thinking.
I often wish I had platonic male friends. I just don't know how to make that happen.
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