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That's bs. I have other girls who try to flirt with me all the time. However, I am in a relationship, and for that fact, the thought of cheating never crossess my mind. The opportunities are there, but I just don't want to. I try to describe to the notion of "do unto others as you would have liked done to you" Life is like a cycle, what goes around comes around. For that reason plus the fact that I have no desire to be with another women. I am a one women guy. When I'm in love with somebody, I personally don't want anyone else regardless of how many options I may or may not have.
That's bs to you.
That's not bs to me.
Different experiences. Quite possible you're a minority as you 'have no desire to be with another woman' as in my observations most guys fantasize/think about f*cking other gals multiple times a day and **** off to porn showcasing other gals.
Different experiences. Quite possible you're a minority as you 'have no desire to be with another woman' as in my observations most guys fantasize/think about f*cking other gals multiple times a day and **** off to porn showcasing other gals.
The difference between your experiences and mine are that I don't say "all" regarding people. Your experiences certainly are different from mine. I have several friends beyond myself who stay faithful to their gf/ wife. My best friend has been with his wife for twenty years. She just last year got caught cheating with a 16 year old on the wrestling team which my best friend helps to coach. Did he cheat to get even with her? No, he loves her and stayed with her, and as far as I know forgave her. Perhaps he will never forget, but he did forgive. Would I have under those circumstances? No, however he did. Different strokes for different folks I guess.
But you are also comparing fantasies with realities. Do men fantasize about other women. Of course, just as women will. The difference between a man and a boy is that a man knows that fantasies aren't reality. I don't think I would masturbate if I had to think just about my gf while doing so. I like to think that my fantasies are more colorful than that. There is a difference. Does it mean that I am looking for someone else to sleep with? Absolutely not. When I love someone, I love them only. I personally don't have room in my heart for two women. That's just me. I have alot of friends who think/ feel the same way. So while those may be your experiences, they certainly aren't everyones. You cannot generalize and say "all" men do this, or "all" women do that. Whenever anyone does this, they are wrong. It's fine that in your experience this is your reality, but it isn't everyones. You have to realize that age plays a factor as well. However, even saying that certainly by no means means that every man/ boy within a certain age all think/ act the same. There are many excepetions for any and all age groups. Perhaps I might be a bit older than you, because all of my guy friends for as much as I know have stayed faithful. Perhaps some have cheated that I do not know about, but again, I can't assume something I don't know as fact.
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OP, not only is there nothing wrong with it, youre in a perfect situation. Because of your options, you are now substantialy more attractive to all other women. men with options always win in the dating world. I was in this situation as well, but since Im currently invested in an exclusive relationship, I got rid of all the side action.....for now. Its a good thing there is an unending supply of beautiful women out there, and even more guys who dont know how to take advantage of it. Props to you, keep your options.
OP, not only is there nothing wrong with it, youre in a perfect situation. Because of your options, you are now substantialy more attractive to all other women. men with options always win in the dating world. I was in this situation as well, but since Im currently invested in an exclusive relationship, I got rid of all the side action.....for now. Its a good thing there is an unending supply of beautiful women out there, and even more guys who dont know how to take advantage of it. Props to you, keep your options.
As long as all the woman you're seeing also have options, which I'm guessing is the case, there's really no problem. It's just how modern dating goes. Going one by one is horribly, horribly inefficient because the chances it won't work out usually are high, so if you see several people at once shotgun style, you increase your statistical chances of one relationship working out. When one gets serious, you stop the others and commit.
Seriously ? This implies that you need a relationship so bad you have to keep them going just in case one doesn't work
That and alot of other things it implies. To me it also implies that he doesn't have much faith in himself or his current gf. Who wants to be in a relationship where you are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop, sort of speak. It reeks of insecurities, exactly what it was meant not to imply.
In Dave's defense I don't think he actually has 6-8 women sitting there waiting for him to come running to them. I think it's more like he has a few women he likes as friends and who may have the possibility of becoming more.
At least that's what I hope he means.
But still Dave, it sounds like you are not really all that in love with this woman at all.
There is nothing to "become more of" I would bet his "friends", girlfriend and any contingency plan in place is as "disposable" as any other Non Relationship he tries to convince himself he has.
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Probably some. 
