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Difference between wanting to be in a relationship verses needing to be in one:
Needing to be in a relationship can make a person feel less of themselves.
Wanting to be in a relationship can make a person feel more of themselves.
Bringing out the best in oneself, either single or not, is a continual process.. In a happy relationship, it's intoxicating. On the flip-side, when the relationship goes south, unfortunately, the pain of a heartache can feel like trauma.
Perhaps temporarily. I have this sneaking suspicion that the void will still be there though and it isn't fair for me to put an honest girl through that. :/
Single people - do you think a relationship would make you happier? People in relationships - does your relationship make you happier?
I find myself thinking if I had someone that I would be happier. Not that I'm super unhappy right now, but it does feel like something is missing sometimes. Yet when I think of the time I was in a serious relationship I was constantly miserable, so being single has to be better than being in a bad relationship.
Just a general question. What are your experiences?
i'm sure it will because i would rather have loved and lost than to never have loved at all, but seriously, i hate how it is okay for a woman to be insecure but not okay for a man
i'm sure it will because i would rather have loved and lost than to never have loved at all, but seriously, i hate how it is okay for a woman to be insecure but not okay for a man
Just a different type of happiness. I'm extremely content single and I have a great time and when I'm in a (good) relationship I'm happy.
A happy person will be happy whether they're single or not, and an unhappy person will be unhappy whether they're in a relationship or not.
This.
I'm happy in my relationship, but it's also because I was happy with myself and my life going into the relationship. Had I been miserable, I'm sure things would not be the same as they are now.
Also you're more than likely to meet someone while making yourself happy while single than if you were out constantly seeking someone. Most people can sense desperation a mile away.
People in relationships - does your relationship make you happier?
Without a shadow of a doubt. I wouldn't wither and die if I was ever to be single again but I doubt i'd be, or probably ever be, as happy as I am in the relationship i'm in.
Single people - do you think a relationship would make you happier? People in relationships - does your relationship make you happier?
I find myself thinking if I had someone that I would be happier. Not that I'm super unhappy right now, but it does feel like something is missing sometimes. Yet when I think of the time I was in a serious relationship I was constantly miserable, so being single has to be better than being in a bad relationship.
Just a general question. What are your experiences?
I think a better (more peaceful) relationship with myself would make me happier which would then indirectly lead to more relationships and possibly one with one of the women I desire.
In that sense, yes I do believe a relationship would make me happier.
women do, because if a man is trying to seek validation, in a woman's perspective it makes him look weak
Often the trouble for women is that American society sends us a lot of mixed messages. If we are secure with ourselves, especially in appearance, we're considered to be stuck up or narcissistic or tooting our own horns in some fashion. Or worse. Plus we're force-fed innumerable notions about what an attractive woman is supposed to look like, which unless you have tremendous amounts of time and money to put into your appearance, is just not realistic. Especially as you age. A lot of forces push us towards putting ourselves down. I'm critical about my appearance, but not hung up on it. I tend to laugh at my flaws, shrug them off. But people think I put myself down because I don't dress myself up and make a big thing of my looks. I mean...I look OK, but I'm not interested in being "the hot chick." What I love about myself is mostly in my brain. I'll be egotistical long before I'm narcissistic, if one isn't a facet of another, but I still take any chance I can get to mock myself.
I believe the need for men to be confident and secure in themselves is a facet of the biological function where men compete for the right to reproduce. At least that's my theory.
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