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Some say that this is a mockery of freaks. Maybe nature and God have it that some are not supposed to breed that they have a higher purpose...as I age and my drive becomes less...I can either resent the fading of sexuality or I can look at it as a new freedom from another hunger of the body. Actually - I need one more attractive woman in my life to perk me up...no viagra jokes please- If you need that stuff you are with the wrong person...also- sexual drive is 90% mental - the mind generates the drive.
Some say that this is a mockery of freaks. Maybe nature and God have it that some are not supposed to breed that they have a higher purpose...as I age and my drive becomes less...I can either resent the fading of sexuality or I can look at it as a new freedom from another hunger of the body. Actually - I need one more attractive woman in my life to perk me up...no viagra jokes please- If you need that stuff you are with the wrong person...also- sexual drive is 90% mental - the mind generates the drive.
And maybe nature and God have it that some people aren't supposed to breed because...they aren't supposed to breed.
Degrees of sexuality...? No drive--just a little bit of drive...or a medium amount of drive...all the way to average drive to super charged...who cares.
1. Have you actually been checked for a hormone imbalance?
2. Is there perhaps something psychological holding you back from relationships etc? Such as low self esteem, body issues, depression, upbringing issues etc etc?
3. Have you had any sexual trauma in the past?
4. Since women are generally less visual than men - do you find romance etc appealing?
Assuming you're currently having sex:
5. Is your relationship healthy and emotionally secure?
6. Are you able to orgasm, have you ever taught yourself how?
7. Are you with a partner whose considerate and works for you to enjoy the experience?
And finally, (please don't take offense)
But, being familiar with your posts on here..
I mean this the best, but you seem a bit jaded against men. I get the impression something must of happened to you in order for the negativity to be present (so often) on these forums. I would imagine those opinions about men would affect your desire to be in a relationship with them...
So, for you (since you PM'ed me), I would be curious about those areas..
I didn't PM you, I thought I repped you. Anyway I wanted to know why you fit all the asexual people into the "hormonal imbalance box" even the ones that don't fit there? Also what were you basing that on? Usually the sexual people (assuming you're one) draw that conclusion b/c again they themselves are soooo into sex, must be something medically wrong with someone that doesn't feel the same as me... That's the impression I get. I'm not answering all of those questions b/c I'm not one to share everything, no offense. Tell us about your whole sex life, S.O. and experiences then? But no I don't have a hormonal imbalance, yes I know this medically to be true. I am more visual like men I guess. Was not raised in religious home. What does 'find romance appealing mean?' You mean the concept of it? I don't like people touching me b/c I don't see the 'point.' I like to watch romance movies sometimes because much of the dialogue and plot lines are as believable to me as Star Wars. Highly entertaining & unrealistic. If you are talking about IRL, I draw a blank because I don't know anything about it from personal experience. Don't you think there's a difference between desire to be in a relationship and desire for sex? I do. Lets say I did want a relationship, 99% of men will not offer romance without sex since they're all about reaping benefits. IMO, they will not offer much of anything to a woman without sex. Sorry but I don't feel I should have to do anything that I don't want to, just to "have a man." So I'm not currently having sex and never have in the first place....My opinions about men have been formed based on my interactions with them, not what somebody online told me they experienced with a man. From what I seen: most other women look at a man and carry on "Oh I want to do him," etc. Hey maybe I would think that too. But here's the difference: they would actually do it when presented with the opportunity and I wouldn't. Whatever it is that 'pushes' people to run all over the place pursuing sex with strangers, cheating, etc. I don't have it. Doesn't that sound like asexuality to you? It does to me.
I know the ways in which they act are so irresistible and all.
Doll Eyes, better ignore these people. I have been noticing this whole forum is full of... They want to stick with mediocrity, let them... we are better than this.
Yea, you are right, I will ignore him. He's a real class act just like all other men I've come across. He's just like them with the name calling, downgrading the whole nine. It's always the same regardless, like clockwork...Do not worry about your asexuality, if it is true or not. If you are comfortable with it, then so be it. Who cares what they think about it; expect less from people in general. I'm going to eat dinner. ttyl.
I didn't PM you, I thought I repped you. Anyway I wanted to know why you fit all the asexual people into the "hormonal imbalance box" even the ones that don't fit there? Also what were you basing that on? Usually the sexual people (assuming you're one) draw that conclusion b/c again they themselves are soooo into sex, must be something medically wrong with someone that doesn't feel the same as me... That's the impression I get. I'm not answering all of those questions b/c I'm not one to share everything, no offense. Tell us about your whole sex life, S.O. and experiences then? But no I don't have a hormonal imbalance, yes I know this medically to be true. I am more visual like men I guess. Was not raised in religious home. What does 'find romance appealing mean?' You mean the concept of it? I don't like people touching me b/c I don't see the 'point.' I like to watch romance movies sometimes because much of the dialogue and plot lines are as believable to me as Star Wars. Highly entertaining & unrealistic. If you are talking about IRL, I draw a blank because I don't know anything about it from personal experience. Don't you think there's a difference between desire to be in a relationship and desire for sex? I do. Lets say I did want a relationship, 99% of men will not offer romance without sex since they're all about reaping benefits. IMO, they will not offer much of anything to a woman without sex. Sorry but I don't feel I should have to do anything that I don't want to, just to "have a man." So I'm not currently having sex and never have in the first place....My opinions about men have been formed based on my interactions with them, not what somebody online told me they experienced with a man. From what I seen: most other women look at a man and carry on "Oh I want to do him," etc. Hey maybe I would think that too. But here's the difference: they would actually do it when presented with the opportunity and I wouldn't. Whatever it is that 'pushes' people to run all over the place pursuing sex with strangers, cheating, etc. I don't have it. Doesn't that sound like asexuality to you? It does to me.
I know the ways in which they act are so irresistible and all.
You skipped over the question of there being something psychologically holding you back...ie, body issues, low self esteem, depression, personality disorders, etc etc..?
You also skipped over prior trauma...
You don't have to answer them here, just something to think about.
And being able to control your self, not wanting sex with random strangers, and not being a cheater aren't reasons for creating a whole new category of sexuality.
You skipped over the question of there being something psychologically holding you back...ie, body issues, low self esteem, depression, personality disorders, etc etc..?
You also skipped over prior trauma...
You don't have to answer them here, just something to think about.
And being able to control your self, not wanting sex with random strangers, and not being a cheater aren't reasons for creating a whole new category of sexuality.
Many "sexuals" posses those qualities.
You're heading into nursing, right? Are you specializing in mental health? I'm being serious. It would be interesting to know.
There's nothing wrong with being asexual. If you're happy with it, then more power to you.
The rest of you posters making immature and childish comments: yes, some people actually do not crave or desire sex. And no, not all have something wrong with them. Grow up and deal with it.
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