Are some narcissistic tendencies initially attractive? (dating, long-term, women, love)

[Philosophizer]

I'd have to say yes, if only briefly (after discovering nothing inside that particular girl warrants such high amounts of self love).

[srjth]

Maybe you initially think it's confidence?

[Philosophizer]

Take the test. Obviously, it's easy to skew how you score if you want to, but try to answer honestly.

Narcissistic Personality Inventory - Psych Central

17 here

[JrzDefector]

Originally Posted by srjth

Maybe you initially think it's confidence?

Exactly what I was going to say.

My father is a narcissist. Even at 81 he gets laid a lot. His confidence and veneer of sophistication take him pretty far. When he's doing business or going out, he's all about image. Push to hard, and you figure out he's not that bright and he tends to react with bluster when he's undermined, but...

Lots of chicks within 20 years of his age fall for that superficial confidence.

His long-term relationship (it's open) is with a woman just as narcissistic as him, so I guess to a certain extent like attracts like.

[believe007]

There's no way that narcissistic traits are attractive, in anybody.
I learned the hard way.
Believe me....the biggest mistake I ever made was thinking I could change a narcissist.

[joeclyde]

I believe that narcissism can be initially attractive. You deem the person as very confident and not needy. But then you realize that they are a narcissistic and plan on leaving.

Dealing with a narcissistic woman is a pain in the azz. There is no helping her or "improving" her. Leave with your sanity and your angel wings.

[Threerun]

I do not find anything remotely attractive or otherwise redeeming in a narcissist.

[smarterguy]

Absolutely. I don't, but its clear as day that others do.

[Philosophizer]

For me, the attraction is trying to figure out if there is any redeeming qualities in that person that warrant such a high ego. If I can't find it (beyond her appearance/looks/way she carries herself), there's no reason to pursue. I can do this without formally dating a girl. I just carry on a few casual conversations with her and her friends to see what she has going on.

There are plenty of attractive women out there that realize they aren't God's gift to mankind.

[D217]

Originally Posted by Philosophizer

Take the test. Obviously, it's easy to skew how you score if you want to, but try to answer honestly.

Narcissistic Personality Inventory - Psych Central

17 here

I got a 10


Between 12 and 15 is average.
Celebrities often score closer to 18.
Narcissists score over 20.