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Old 11-29-2012, 10:34 PM
 
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Happy? Sure. Fulfilled? No way. Sex is a part of life and definitely part of a marriage. Tell him bluntly that things need to change. That it's not a proper marriage and that, frankly, if he isn't going to take care of business, you're going to leave him and/or get it elsewhere. Life's too short, hun. You don't want to wake up 20 years from now and wonder about all the...experiences you missed.
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Old 11-29-2012, 10:39 PM
 
Location: Sometimes Miami sometimes Australia
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But when you see another person the same gender you feel attracted to him.

And that can be noticed.

OP: does your husband look on other men in an unusual way?

No? Then he probably is not gay.
Yes, Im sure he drools at the mouth when he sees another man

If he did he wouldn't last this long in a straight marriage

Im going to assume you don't know what you are talking about rather than think you are thick
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Old 11-29-2012, 10:44 PM
 
Location: Tampa, Florida
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Maybe since I am not gay not have never had homoplatonic feelings, but I have had heteroplatonic feelings and still do and beautiful and pretty women catch my eye and I am pretty sure friends around me could notice it. It is not I am dropping saliva when I see them but the platonic attraction can be noticed.

So I believe it must be analogous with the gays... after all gays and straights are the same thing except for the gender they feel attracted to.
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Old 11-29-2012, 10:46 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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You two have officially hijacked this thread and veered into "unhelpful" territory.
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Old 11-29-2012, 10:48 PM
 
Location: Sometimes Miami sometimes Australia
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You two have officially hijacked this thread and veered into "unhelpful" territory.
We have provided two possible reasons

And your contibution is helpful how?
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Old 11-29-2012, 10:50 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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We have provided two possible reasons

And your contibution is helpful how?
To get you to stop bickering before the thread is locked.

Did you miss the humanity in the OP? This person is hurting, and you're arguing about the origins of homosexuality.
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Old 11-29-2012, 10:53 PM
 
Location: Sometimes Miami sometimes Australia
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To get you to stop bickering before the thread is locked.

Did you miss the humanity in the OP? This person is hurting, and you're arguing about the origins of homosexuality.
Well i think the contributors have already nailed it on the head. Short of the OP being a hideous monster (which I doubt she is), her man is either in need of medical tests for possible hormone imbalances or is a closet gay.

Woohoo Im psychic
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Old 11-29-2012, 10:56 PM
 
Location: Tampa, Florida
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You two have officially hijacked this thread and veered into "unhelpful" territory.
Excuse me sir. tropical98 as a gay has stated the possibility of the husband of the OP to be gay, and I as an asexual as stated the possibility of the husband of the OP to be asexual. And another person gave a much better possibility on what happens with the husband of the OP, which could be simply low levels of testosterone.

And your opinion is...???? What can you contribute?
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Old 11-29-2012, 10:57 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Excuse me sir. tropical98 as a gay has stated the possibility of the husband of the OP to be gay, and I as an asexual as stated the possibility of the husband of the OP to be asexual. And another person gave a much better possibility on what happens with the husband of the OP, which could be simply low levels of testosterone.

And your opinion is...???? What can you contribute?
I sent the OP a DM since I knew the trolls were out.

And you can call me "ma'am."
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Old 11-29-2012, 11:01 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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No offense to any of the posters so far but as I read some of you I really am happy to have decided to stay in a celibate life. I can't register how can I fall in love with someone and just because of lack of sex I would think about filing for divorce or wanting to break the relationship. Whatever happened to all that "I love you", "I need you", etc.... so it is all physical? And some people dare to tell me to fix my possible testosterone problem. I believe most relationships today are a pile of bogus. NO THANKS.

Just a comment.
If you're referring to my post, please note where I said,

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It wasn't so much the absence of sex as the absence of intimacy of any kind. I felt like we'd been growing further and further apart each year, and I wanted no more of it.
A marriage is all about intimacy -- some physical, mostly mental/emotional. If there's no closeness, it's strictly a business partnership.
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