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It makes everyone look like they have this fabulous, perfect, and happy life. Very few people will share with you the huge blowups they are having with their significant others, and other serious life problems. This makes people look perfect and happy, seeing only their relationship status and usually only posting the great things about their lives. FB is essentially a brag fest with occasional chatting. People tend to post their best pictures, untag the worst, etc.
As for feeling bad about being single, if you don't think it's Facebook influencing you, you need to do some serious soul searching. Why are you upset about being single? Are you bored? Depressed? Find the root of the problem, because filling the void with a partner does not solve these problems, I promise. I firmly believe relationships should complement an already complete person, they are the healthiest. Don't let Facebook sink you.
I tend to avoid Facebook a lot because I feel ostracized online because of my single status. Everyone is married, engaged or with someone. I just found out my younger cousin is now getting married and it is upsetting me. It's one thing that almost everyone around my age is married but now people 10-20 years younger than me are getting married. I know if taco man doesn't like me I will never find anyone and it depresses me.
Relax. Facebook can have that effect, both documented and commonsensically. If you're on it, try to stock it up with singles, divorced, and widowed types. They take the time to interact with you on your posts, and vice-versa. I had one married chick who went to undergrad with me. She lived near me, I spoke with her daily, and she was a smoker/coffee drinker without a care in the world. She moved to the heartland because of her husband's job. She is now really conservative, excessively so, and in one post showed her nails painted in the colors of the nearest professional football franchise she supported. It met with a barrage of "likes" from her fellow soccer moms. She never once commented or liked anything of mine, mostly travel related, with everything focused on others with children, until I put up some posts around the election. She went ballistic on me with entire paragraphs. When I basically wrote that her emotional and unsubstantiated posts because she can't pencil through anything, since she slept and/or smoked through her marketing curriculum, didn't hold water, that ended our FB link.
Yeah. I came up with a term for it - the "silence" on Facebook from certain people. I call it "breeder condescension." While I hated that term when I first heard it (1998), sometimes the shoe fits.
IIR, you're close enough to Chicago. You should be able to find someone to your liking there. The demographics you list should be represented.
It makes everyone look like they have this fabulous, perfect, and happy life. Very few people will share with you the huge blowups they are having with their significant others, and other serious life problems. This makes people look perfect and happy, seeing only their relationship status and usually only posting the great things about their lives. FB is essentially a brag fest with occasional chatting. People tend to post their best pictures, untag the worst, etc.
As for feeling bad about being single, if you don't think it's Facebook influencing you, you need to do some serious soul searching. Why are you upset about being single? Are you bored? Depressed? Find the root of the problem, because filling the void with a partner does not solve these problems, I promise. I firmly believe relationships should complement an already complete person, they are the healthiest. Don't let Facebook sink you.
What a freakin' great post. About Facebook and about being single. True, FB is for putting one's best foot forward, and can be a smokescreen for the real deal and the not so pleasant stuff can be swept under the rug. As for being single, being coupled is often not the best bandage, either. Proceed with caution.
Then open up a Pinterest account and pretend like me and dozens of other women out there.
...seriously, some people on FB overrate and overexpose the things in their lives. I tend to question those that post too many positive things because I know life is that great every freaken day. I also have those that btch and moan everyday. The only positive thing about those two is that they both sort of balance each other out.
I have a friend who keeps posting happy pictures of her and her husband on FAKEBOOK. I am getting daily emails from her that she hates her life and wants to get out of her marriage as soon as she has the funds.
Don't believe anything on FAKEBOOK!
Yes, your cousins and other people get married, great. They might be split up before they paid off their wedding. Look at all the others who get divorced. Almost 50% of all American marriages are not holding up. What are you jealous about? Leave them their few happy years
I tend to avoid Facebook a lot because I feel ostracized online because of my single status. Everyone is married, engaged or with someone. I just found out my younger cousin is now getting married and it is upsetting me. It's one thing that almost everyone around my age is married but now people 10-20 years younger than me are getting married. I know if taco man doesn't like me I will never find anyone and it depresses me.
Yes I like cats which is a good thing.
I'm starting to think you need to get out of your small town to a bigger city or a more cosmopolitan area, where it's not unusual to be single at 40. There are a lot of men who have been concentrating on their careers, and are only coming up for air and social activity at 40, wondering if there are any single, child-free women in their age group.
Location: where people are either too stupid to leave or too stuck to move
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I deactivated mines a year ago. I thought I couldn't do it but with their constant difficult interface it was easier. Deactivate girl/boy . Look on the darker bright side, according to statistics half them will be divorce soon anyway.
I have a friend who keeps posting happy pictures of her and her husband on FAKEBOOK. I am getting daily emails from her that she hates her life and wants to get out of her marriage as soon as she has the funds.
Don't believe anything on FAKEBOOK!
Yes, your cousins and other people get married, great. They might be split up before they paid off their wedding. Look at all the others who get divorced. Almost 50% of all American marriages are not holding up. What are you jealous about? Leave them their few happy years
Yep, I can believe this. I think people who are constantly posting happy pictures and gushing about their relationship are probably trying to compensate for something wrong. Couples I know that are actually happy don't express their true love to each other on Facebook - they love each other and they know it, they don't need to splash it on FB.
I'm starting to think you need to get out of your small town to a bigger city or a more cosmopolitan area, where it's not unusual to be single at 40. There are a lot of men who have been concentrating on their careers, and are only coming up for air and social activity at 40, wondering if there are any single, child-free women in their age group.
Luckily I live less than an hour from Chicago and when I worked there I met a lot of single people in their 40's, 50's and even older.
I tend to avoid Facebook a lot because I feel ostracized online because of my single status. Everyone is married, engaged or with someone. I just found out my younger cousin is now getting married and it is upsetting me. It's one thing that almost everyone around my age is married but now people 10-20 years younger than me are getting married. I know if taco man doesn't like me I will never find anyone and it depresses me.
Yes I like cats which is a good thing.
Your looking in the wrong places. There are plenty of good men in our big, beautiful country & other countries...
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