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You made it sound like you were forcing a conversation that she wasn't interested in, and you were ticked because she wouldn't start a conversation with you. And in that moment, she wasn't "in the dating world", she was at work.
No, we had some pleasant conversation for a few minutes and then I hit a wall and couldn't take it any further from there and couldn't think of anything to talk about. I don't know if she was disinterested in me or just being a typical woman and expecting the man to do absolutely everything
I work in car sales, I understand that any conversation I have needs to be fun and friendly. I don't ever come across as desperate
No, we had some pleasant conversation for a few minutes and then I hit a wall and couldn't take it any further from there and couldn't think of anything to talk about. I don't know if she was disinterested in me or just being a typical woman and expecting the man to do absolutely everything
I work in car sales, I understand that any conversation I have needs to be fun and friendly. I don't ever come across as desperate
You're digging yourself a hole, looking for excuses to put women down because you're not having success.
If you're successful at work and can be fun and friendly, why can't you do the same in your off-work hours? And you ignored the question I asked you,
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What is your plan for meeting a woman and developing a relationship? If you're looking at the end goal and not paying attention to steps you need to take, you'll never get there.
First off, she's a bartender so your odds of getting her to date you are extremely slim. I saw your picture and you're a good looking guy but that doesnt matter because she's a bartender! It wouldnt matter if you were 6'4" and 210lbs of all muscle with a face like Brad Pitt and the wallet of Bill Gates, you still wouldnt be able to date her. Did you buy that book that I suggested? BUY THAT BOOK. READ IT COVER TO COVER and dont come back here complaining until every scrap of advice in it has been followed to the letter. If you're struggling with self esteem issues, which I get the impression that you are, it may be time to seek help from a counselor.
Also, getting rejected and dealing with it is part of being a man. If woman A is not attracted to you, blow it off, move on and ask out woman B. You will end up with a woman that you connect with on a physical, mental and emotional level eventually as long as you are persistent.
First off, she's a bartender so your odds of getting her to date you are extremely slim. I saw your picture and you're a good looking guy but that doesnt matter because she's a bartender! It wouldnt matter if you were 6'4" and 210lbs of all muscle with a face like Brad Pitt and the wallet of Bill Gates, you still wouldnt be able to date her. Did you buy that book that I suggested? BUY THAT BOOK. READ IT COVER TO COVER and dont come back here complaining until every scrap of advice in it has been followed to the letter. If you're struggling with self esteem issues, which I get the impression that you are, it may be time to seek help from a counselor.
She wasn't the bartender at a ******* club in Vegas. This place had like 10-15 people...local place where everybody knows everybody. It's not like she was a playmate either
BTW I've gotten the number of a bartender before who was more attractive than this gal so it can be done. I never asked the other one out because I assumed she would reject me....I had really horrible self esteem with women at that point
No, we had some pleasant conversation for a few minutes and then I hit a wall and couldn't take it any further from there and couldn't think of anything to talk about. I don't know if she was disinterested in me or just being a typical woman and expecting the man to do absolutely everything
I work in car sales, I understand that any conversation I have needs to be fun and friendly. I don't ever come across as desperate
Since you're in sales, you should know that just because there's no conversation, it doesn't mean the deal is off the table. If YOU were truly interested, you should have asked her out at some point. Heck, you could still ask her out...if you were truly interested in HER. The deals not dead yet. Instead you're angry at her. Go figure.
Since you're in sales, you should know that just because there's no conversation, it doesn't mean the deal is off the table. If YOU were truly interested, you should have asked her out at some point. Heck, you could still ask her out...if you were truly interested in HER. The deals not dead yet. Instead you're angry at her. Go figure.
You don't ask out a woman if you don't have a lengthy conversation with a very strong connection there. You will get rejected every time
Hell you have a great chance of getting rejected even if you do have a great connection in your interaction...but that at least gives you a fighting chance
I had a great day at work today and I hope those positive feelings would translate to maybe some success tonight with the ladies. I went out and was talking to this bartender at a very small local bar (only maybe 15 of us there so it's like she was getting hit on much at all)....Anyways, I tried as hard as I could to make something happen and we had a bit of pleasant conversation at the beginning, but I just hit a complete wall at one point and the whole thing was dead before it even started. I couldn't think of anything to say, she wouldn't start any conversation (typical situation with women where you have to do absolutely everything in the dating world to make anything happen)
I just can't get away from my feelings of being hopeless. I talked in my other thread of finding somebody overseas and what not, but it just drives me nuts being single without even any prospects day after day after day. I've been wanting somebody for soooo long. I just can't keep being forever alone like this and killing myself
OP, she just wasn't into you. It's not realistic to expect interest from any random stranger, is it? This happens to women, too. They may repeatedly chat up the same guy over time, but nothing happens. The woman just isn't his type, it's not a big deal. Just move on.
Why the bartender, anyway? Any service personnel are sitting ducks, a captive audience, and they know it. It's very awkward for them when customers come on to them. And why invest so much self-esteem in random strangers? This is just part of life, everyone goes through this. You're handing way too much power over yourself to these strangers.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 11-30-2012 at 12:27 PM..
You don't ask out a woman if you don't have a lengthy conversation with a very strong connection there. You will get rejected every time
I, as a woman who's been in those situations, disagree with you.
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