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A friend that I once had, and I, called this "P.S. No fatties" syndrome.
We coined the term from Craigslist "Men seeking Women" ads. We found it hilarious that the men had laundry lists of desired characteristics - like yours, only longer - and then would end the ad with "P.S. NO FATTIES!" I know that it's due to a lot of stock being placed on "hotness". Dating someone physically desirable = status.
I also know that there is a metric **** ton of fat hatred, and that fat people are shunned. A fat woman may have a beautiful face and meet all the desired characteristics, but she's automatically written off as "gross" or "disgusting" before she even has an opportunity to date someone. Yet, how often do you see fat people complain about "having no availabilities" for dating? And if ever there are complaints, how often are they taken seriously?
This, and the points raised in the original post, are why I laugh whenever I read the multitude of posts here about women being "unavailable" or "taken" or any other complaints lodged.
I know I have mentioned this before but there was this CL ad that said "no fatties" though the guy was obese himself. Not to mention all the men who have contacted me because they were thrilled there was a non fat person out there because they were tired of the fatties yet almost all of them were obese.
I can see someone being picky on this if they aren't obese but if they are obese they need a reality check. Many men (not all)are way too obsessed with weight. I've had guys tell me I was too fat at a size 10 and 5'7. I have been as slim as a size 4-6 while modeling and I looked almost sickly.
I've had guys tell me I was too fat at a size 10 and 5'7.
Who are these guys? Who says that to women, to their face?? Are people really that rude?!
An 8-10 is just right for most 5'7's, depending on bone structure.
Do you feel as though you're doing overweight women a "favor" by asking them out?
He doesn't understand how that pov on its own contributes to his troubles in dating. He has a fundamental problem with how he views people and relationships.
Yes, that is very true. I met this guy, he was a fat, bald, divorced pharmacist. No chemistry for either one of us...I was fine with it. Stayed his friend. So, he meets a friend of mine, who is smoking hot, young, and extremely sexy. He falls hard for her. She has zip interest in him. And he continues to lament how he "can't meet any women"....reality check....he can meet women, just he needs to stay with meeting women his age, and ones that have a few extra pounds. He is not George Clooney. And BTW, I felt his main problem was how incredibly boring he was...zip on the social skills. No one wants to hear you talk about your divorce.
I had this friend who was obese, smelly (bathing wasn't one of his interests), unemployed, lived with his parents and was about 40. He put an ad on a dating site requesting a buxom blonde 25 or so with a great job and of course he got no responses. He had a woman who wanted to date him but she was overweight too and his age and he complained she was all he could attract. I had to tell him she was BETTER than what he could realistically attract because she was employed and overweight but not obese like him. I haven't spoken to him in years (his personality got nastier)but while Googling I found out he is now 50, and still single.
Who are these guys? Who says that to women, to their face?? Are people really that rude?!
An 8-10 is just right for most 5'7's, depending on bone structure.
Sadly some men are so obsessed with weight. I dated a guy who would order me a salad when we we went out to dinner if I weighed more than 110 (he weighed me). I look far healthier at size 8-10 than any other size because I am more muscular and a larger body frame than many women.
I had this friend who was obese, smelly (bathing wasn't one of his interests), unemployed, lived with his parents and was about 40. He put an ad on a dating site requesting a buxom blonde 25 or so with a great job and of course he got no responses. He had a woman who wanted to date him but she was overweight too and his age and he complained she was all he could attract. I had to tell him she was BETTER than what he could realistically attract because she was employed and overweight but not obese like him. I haven't spoken to him in years (his personality got nastier)but while Googling I found out he is now 50, and still single.
He doesn't understand how that pov on its own contributes to his troubles in dating. He has a fundamental problem with how he views people and relationships.
Apparently it is perfectly ok for women to be picky and reject me, but if men reject women, we are too superficial.
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