Do We Men Put Too High a Premium on Beauty In Relationships? Can We Help It? (child, partner)
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Do you actually WANT to be happy? Because it seems to be that you actually just want to pretend to be a victim. It doesn't seem like you actually want anything to improve - you just want people to feel sorry for you. And we don't. And it's ticking you off. And instead of trying to figure out why we don't feel sorry for you - you just lash out at us and tell us we are bad people because we don't feel sorry for you. But if you actually wanted to be happy - you'd try to figure out ways to improve yourself and your life instead of just blaming everyone else and getting mad at everyone for not feeling sorry for you.
I've already made dramatic efforts to improve my looks and my financial status. I have worked very hard at both of these things. Yes, i am very bitter that i have worked hard for years to change my perceived flaws and improve my attractiveness, as well as lower my standards in attractiveness in women, and it still has not paid off.
At some point, i don't feel like being the one who always has to change and improve. At some point, i want to find women who accept me the way i am. Somehow, every flaw that I have is seen as a deal-breaker. Clingyness is seen as a deal-breaker. Whereas flaws that other people have, they are more forgivable.
It absolutely ticks me off that we live in a world so lacking in compassion that nobody feels sympathetic for me despite my efforts to improve. That's why it's better to pay to talk to girls, because then you can give them money to feel sympathetic for you. Unfortunately i am pretty broke at the moment, but i plan to go back to paying women to talk to me as soon as i can financially afford it, hopefully later this week.
I've already made dramatic efforts to improve my looks and my financial status. I have worked very hard at both of these things. Yes, i am very bitter that i have worked hard for years to change my perceived flaws and improve my attractiveness, as well as lower my standards in attractiveness in women, and it still has not paid off.
At some point, i don't feel like being the one who always has to change and improve. At some point, i want to find women who accept me the way i am. Somehow, every flaw that I have is seen as a deal-breaker. Clingyness is seen as a deal-breaker. Whereas flaws that other people have, they are more forgivable.
It absolutely ticks me off that we live in a world so lacking in compassion that nobody feels sympathetic for me despite my efforts to improve. That's why it's better to pay to talk to girls, because then you can give them money to feel sympathetic for you. Unfortunately i am pretty broke at the moment, but i plan to go back to paying women to talk to me as soon as i can financially afford it, hopefully later this week.
So throw us a few bucks and we'll pretend to be sympathetic too.
What are you asking? If one is worse than the other? Personally I don't want someone obese or clingy. There's a big difference between being attentive and being clingy. Someone who is clingy is usually clingy because they are insecure, because they have no other life but the relationship...who wants that? And someone who is obese probably doesn't care about taking care of themselves. We wouldn't be compatible because I like to eat healthy and go to the gym.
What i'm saying is that i get rejected by obese women, because they think i'm too clingy. I'm willing to overlook their obesity, but they are not willing to overlook my clinginess. It's not fair.
Many of the women have made it quite clear that they feel no sympathy for me despite this unfair situation. I am not sure why the ladies, many of whom claim to be compassionate and nice people, seem to have so little sympathy for me. It's almost like they are nice to everyone else except me. I wonder if i have a sign on my head telling people to kick me.
I've already made dramatic efforts to improve my looks and my financial status. I have worked very hard at both of these things. Yes, i am very bitter that i have worked hard for years to change my perceived flaws and improve my attractiveness, as well as lower my standards in attractiveness in women, and it still has not paid off.
At some point, i don't feel like being the one who always has to change and improve. At some point, i want to find women who accept me the way i am. Somehow, every flaw that I have is seen as a deal-breaker. Clingyness is seen as a deal-breaker. Whereas flaws that other people have, they are more forgivable.
It absolutely ticks me off that we live in a world so lacking in compassion that nobody feels sympathetic for me despite my efforts to improve. That's why it's better to pay to talk to girls, because then you can give them money to feel sympathetic for you. Unfortunately i am pretty broke at the moment, but i plan to go back to paying women to talk to me as soon as i can financially afford it, hopefully later this week.
Maybe you should go back and reread all your posts and threads and figure out why exactly that is. If even the nicest people here want to throttle you - perhaps it's not that every single person lacks compassion but that you are doing things to turn people off.
And what exactly are you looking for? I'm married - am I supposed to hop on a plane and spread my legs for you? Would that make me compassionate? I think I'm being pretty darn compassionate by trying to get you to see that you are the problem and you are the only key to your own happiness.
What i'm saying is that i get rejected by obese women, because they think i'm too clingy. I'm willing to overlook their obesity, but they are not willing to overlook my clinginess. It's not fair.
Many of the women have made it quite clear that they feel no sympathy for me despite this unfair situation. I am not sure why the ladies, many of whom claim to be compassionate and nice people, seem to have so little sympathy for me. It's almost like they are nice to everyone else except me. I wonder if i have a sign on my head telling people to kick me.
Meh, I never made that claim. Not while I'm on CD!
What i'm saying is that i get rejected by obese women, because they think i'm too clingy. I'm willing to overlook their obesity, but they are not willing to overlook my clinginess. It's not fair.
Many of the women have made it quite clear that they feel no sympathy for me despite this unfair situation. I am not sure why the ladies, many of whom claim to be compassionate and nice people, seem to have so little sympathy for me. It's almost like they are nice to everyone else except me. I wonder if i have a sign on my head telling people to kick me.
I don't think looks or money matter as much as your personality and how you treat the other person when you're dating/in a relationship. It is pretty universal that both men and women don't like to date someone who is overly clingy. Maybe this is what you really need to work on.
I need to figure out how much I would have to pay a woman for her to give me attention. It's just way too hard for a clingy guy such as myself to find a relationship the traditional way when clinginess is seen as such a despicably undesirable hindrance. I have an idea of how much it would cost to pay for sex videos and stuff, but the market price for female attention varies quite a bit, I would imagine.
Depends on your location perhaps try flipping through craigslists ads or escort services. I'm pretty sure many guys on here can give you a close guess-estimate of the cost as it seems prostitutes/escorts are fairly common.
What i'm saying is that i get rejected by obese women, because they think i'm too clingy. I'm willing to overlook their obesity, but they are not willing to overlook my clinginess. It's not fair.
Many of the women have made it quite clear that they feel no sympathy for me despite this unfair situation. I am not sure why the ladies, many of whom claim to be compassionate and nice people, seem to have so little sympathy for me. It's almost like they are nice to everyone else except me. I wonder if i have a sign on my head telling people to kick me.
Maybe these obese women want a man who genuinely doesn't mind that they are obese?
Perhaps if you look for a woman who doesn't mind clingy men (regardless of her other personality traits) you'll be successful.
Here's what I really think. You need professional help. You are clearly sabotaging any chances you might have with women by acting like a human boa constrictor.
Cut that out.
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What i'm saying is that i get rejected by obese women, because they think i'm too clingy. I'm willing to overlook their obesity, but they are not willing to overlook my clinginess. It's not fair.
Many of the women have made it quite clear that they feel no sympathy for me despite this unfair situation. I am not sure why the ladies, many of whom claim to be compassionate and nice people, seem to have so little sympathy for me. It's almost like they are nice to everyone else except me. I wonder if i have a sign on my head telling people to kick me.
Obese women shouldn't have to lower their standards just because you did. Nobody is forcing you to ask them out after all.
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