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He waited a good amount of time to make a move towards physical intimacy and sounds like he likes you and is a gentleman. If he just wanted sex, he would have tried to use cunning words to seduce your panties off on day one. If, you don't want a relationship or sex, be upfront with him and spare him the agony of rejection. But, right now you are playing him, and it isn't cool. And that is why there are threads on here about how mean young, cute girls are towards guys. Time to grow up honey, men are going to want to be with you and you have to be honest about what you want.
He said he's willing to wait but he is still being touchy....
Good for you! Best to be cautious! You are under NO obligation to have sex with him. Does he WANT sex? Well, of course he does! LOL The question is, is he willing to wait for it? Better yet, does he care about YOU enough to wait for it? Let's face it, if a guy has only been dating you for 5 weeks (dear gawd, just over 1 month!!!) and doesn't stick around, because you won't put out for him, he is NOT into you, he is just looking for a POA!
Do NOT let yourself be guilted into having sex with him....not unless that's truly what YOU want, and unless you're willing to take the risk of having him disappear once he's gotten that POA!
Addition: If you SHOULD decide to have sex with him, make SURE you have condoms in your possession!!! Carrying condoms in your purse does NOT make you look like a tramp. They make you look like someone who isn't willing to sacrifice yourself to HIV or another STD. Be smart!
I bet msvalentine and beachmel have condoms in there purses. the problem is they never had a man who wanted to use em after hearing them babble on about how ' I don't do this or that " , and those things are old and dried out much like their (you know what) . have a nice day ladies, I am going to the bar to watch the bears and bring home a broad in her 50s who finally figured out that their youth and looks were wasted waiting the knight to arrive.
LOL i feel sorry for the 50 yr old woman. i hope she has condoms in her purse so she won't catch your STD. hopefully.
I'm confused...you didn't like him and were outraged he kissed you, but now he's your boyfriend?
The answer to your question is yes of course he wants sex. Do you think if you showed up to his place naked and said let's do it that he would say no? He's a guy! They always want sex. But that doesn't mean he just wants sex. You're young and I'm guessing you've never had sex before. It's okay to wait awhile IMO, but you should be honest with him about your expectations. I waited four months to have sex with my first serious boyfriend. I don't wait that long now, but I wanted my first time to be with someone I cared about. Just be honest with this guy and see where things go.
I met James 5 weeks ago, at my college cafeteria. We sat next to each other and he started asking about the book I'm reading (turns out he is using the same one for his class). We kind of clicked and had a great time, so we exchanged numbers. That night he text me and made brief conversations. After that day, we started texting each other every night (but he always initiate the conversation). About 7 days later, he asked me to come out again and just chill around. I wasn't busy and I needed some break from my midterm studying so I agreed to go(I am not looking for a relationship). Anyways, we hung around for a bit and chatted (he did not did anything disrespectful or was touchy, he acted like a friend). Flash forward a week later (we still text everyday and he is still the one who always text first), we went out and he put his hand on my shoulder the whole time (which I didn't mind much because he is attractive). But I got really pissed off when he proceed to kiss me when he walked me back to my dorm. I was like really mad but I didn't want to make a big scene in front of my dorm and had people come out and see what is going out. He just kind of begged and was apologizing a lot and kept making excuses for his behavior such as he thought I liked him and such.
The next day, he texted me and tried to act normal, but when I didn't reply, he started to text for my forgiveness. He called 3 times that day also and left quite a few messages. After 1 1/2 week, I guess I wasn't pissed anymore so I forgave him. He is my type so I told him that we should take thing slow. The next time we hung out, we kissed and hold hand but no sex. Although we kiss, we do talk a lot about each other and he doesn't always tries to kiss me. I told him I wasn't ready for sex and he promised to respect me (I'm not sure if he is just saying to get me though) Anyways, we just became official a week ago (and he did asked me to be his girlfriend when he first kissed me but I just finally said yes) and he starts to put his hand on my legs and he likes to invite me back to his dorm (although he does not force it and we usually go somewhere else).
The thing is, he does help me a lot when I need to. He helps me edit my essays and is willing to do most things I asked him. Also, when we go out he usually pays. We also talks about our majors, families, and such too. His text messages contain nothing sexual, and are usually just asking me what I am doing and stuff. But he is a bit touchy so I don't know if he wants sex or if he wants a real relationship....
Gentleman of C-D, this is some very important insight into the normal thought process of a woman (it doesn't change as they get older).
- No idea what she wants
- Flipping from one extreme to the other
- Saying one thing, doing another
- Non-linear stream of consciousness that always completely lacks logic
Very valuable lessons can be learned here, guys.
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