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Think outside the box in which you so obviously find yourself trapped:
If you have a university, college, or even public school system nearby, you can take some free or nearly-free courses that will put you around people within a 5 year range (+/-) of you. Chances are, at least a few of those people will be available (single) women with whom you can converse. In fact, conversation could be a lot easier since you'll have a common starting point (the class/seminar/etc. you're taking).
Just a thought...
--Dim
Women have no interest in dating men younger than themselves and more than 2 years younger is probably going to be too young
As far as the school goes - that's not a bad option. I would be hesitant to do that because I had women in my classes in college over the ages of 19-23 and I never had any success there
Want a f*cking solution? Quit being a little baby, go down to Chicago and walk around downtown and hit on 15 attractive looking women that you see, get their numbers and go on dates. If you're as attractive as you say you are you should be able to get 5/15 numbers.
Good lord, it's not that difficult. Here's the thing though, you won't.
Someone posted an article on one of your recent threads. Did you read it? It said: joining organizations, doing charitable/volunteer work (yeah, yeah, I know--supposedly you don't have time. Yet you claim to have time for a relationship. Does anyone see a contradiction here?), taking an acting/improv class, aside from all the daily opportunities to talk to women who cross your path.
How many of these women will be in the very small subsection of age that I can even attract?
20 bucks says most of the women in these activities will be about 40 years old
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The dating scene isn't one-sided. Women are just waiting for guys like you to talk to them (the article also said this), but so many guys are too shy, like you, that women end up alone, too.
As far as the school goes - that's not a bad option. I would be hesitant to do that because I had women in my classes in college over the ages of 19-23 and I never had any success there
(those who are 21-23 - anything older probably doesn't want a guy as young as me and anything younger is probably too young)
Not really. Making assumptions like this severely limits yourself. If you live in or near a big city there are interest clubs that are geared toward younger people. My friend who lives in the Chicago suburbs played in a softball league that was only for single people. I'm sure there are plenty of other opportunities like this. You have to put yourself out there more instead of just seeing the negative to potential social situations.
Average social gathering - 90% of the women have boyfriends, 3 or 4 women there who are single are just hanging out with each other all night.
I'm assuming this is because the single women have 50,000 options just from their own social circle/online dating/etc... so it's totally understandable
Not a sympathy question, I don't want sympathy...just want a solution to end the suffering
BTW most of the "solutions" you have given me feature women who are way too old. The average woman at yoga sessions at my gym is 35. The average age of women at meetup groups is about 30-35. This is another huge problem I'm encountering - I can only date a very small subsection of women (those who are 21-23 - anything older probably doesn't want a guy as young as me and anything younger is probably too young) and those woman are in huge huge demand by men of all ages
They're young women everywhere. A lot of 21-22 year olds are still in college.;concerts, restaurants, clothes/makeup stores, movie theatres, fast food places, beaches etc..Every girl you asked out has said no?
How many of these women will be in the very small subsection of age that I can even attract?
20 bucks says most of the women in these activities will be about 40 years old
I've met men and women in their 20's at political action orgs, enviro orgs, and in weekend sports activities. Some of the political groups are almost exclusively people in their 20's. But you wouldn't know, because you're writing off that option before you even try.
Average social gathering - 90% of the women have boyfriends, 3 or 4 women there who are single are just hanging out with each other all night.
I'm assuming this is because the single women have 50,000 options just from their own social circle/online dating/etc... so it's totally understandable
Have you ever approached these women? "Hi how are you?" Given your obvious wealth, amazing good looks and tremendous physique I would expect you would get at least a "Hi" back. If I were single and saw a table of 3 or 4 women sitting by themselves, I would make sure to introduce myself, perhaps ask if anyone needed a new drink. It sounds like you're unwilling to do the work, because any sort of rejection will shatter you. I find that surprising given that you're in sales so must have learned to live with rejection quite regularly in that gig.
Everything was always extremely awkward. They clearly seemed like they weren't interested in me
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Not really. Making assumptions like this severely limits yourself.
I remember seeing a thread on a dating site where a woman asked "Dating somebody younger than yourself, how awful is it?". The guy was ONE YEAR younger than her
That was just absolutely mind blowing to me. Women can date men 10 years old than themselves but if the men is 1 year younger, no thanks...I guess
Women have no interest in dating men younger than themselves and more than 2 years younger is probably going to be too young
As far as the school goes - that's not a bad option. I would be hesitant to do that because I had women in my classes in college over the ages of 19-23 and I never had any success there
Wait, what??
Reality check: Women date younger men all the time. When I was 19, I dated a woman who was 25. When I was 20, I was with a 26 year old. When I was 22, she was 35. See a pattern? Age is a number...
BUT (FOOT STOMPER...PAY ATTENTION)
Maturity is more important. Yes, a woman who is a few years older than you may pass you up if you display the emotional maturity of a guy who's 19. And, to be honest, some of your threads display exactly that.
Others have said it, but it bears repeating: IF you really want to change your lot in life, you need to push your boundaries and break through them.
Throw away any pre-conceived notions about age, race, career, size, weight, etc. and just do it.
Talk to all sorts of women, but talk to them because they're women. Not because you're trying to get a girlfriend.
Get to know them as people...build your confidence in who you are (as a man).
Chances are you'll go on a few dates, and you might even get a girlfriend out of the "deal".
--Dim
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