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After 3 great dates that I treated her to that weren't exactly cheap, she said she'd like to return the favor with a nice date at her apartment and she'll cook me dinner. Is this just a nice date idea or is she inviting me to spend the night? I live within walking distance of her place. I figured I'd grab a bottle of wine and maybe some small flowers or something and bring them over. I've never had a woman cook for me before as a date. Things are going well, we talk a lot and she makes me laugh, sometimes she seems a little critical but then claims to be joking afterwards. I like her, she's definitely marriage material (from what I know so far) but I still feel like I need to take it slow and make sure I pay attention to red flags. I need to know if she's a girl that just jumps from guy to guy like my last gf who broke my heart. She seems into me, and that's great, but I don't want to be just a guy that she moves really fast with early on and then it flames out and she chalks it up to "chemistry not there anymore". I feel like it's really easy to get in that situation and I'm not looking to go through that again. I'm trying to be open minded and go with the flow of something great developing, but I really really want to play it safe too.
there's no point inviting a man over even for dinner they think everything is an invitation for sex. I mean, my God, only knew this woman for 3 dates....
Grats cdubs, glad to see you hitting it off. Be outcome independent, she invited you for dinner so go for dinner. If she wants you to stay the night, she'll make it obvious, if not no big deal. Ju st keep pushing the interraction forward at whatever pace you are comfortable. And dont look for red flags, if you really look long enough, you will find what youre looking for. Also this marriage material talk, maybe just a little premature, dont you think?
I agree. Play it by ear and don't force anything. Go as far as she wants, as long as it isn't further than you want to go at this point.
First off, don't get her flowers at all. Bad move.
Next, you have to make a move on her. Stop putting her on a pedestal. Go as far as you can with her and make her say no. If she wants sex, she will have it with you if you make a move. If you don't make a move, she will think there is something wrong with you.
First off, don't get her flowers at all. Bad move.
Curious as to why you think this is a bad move? As a woman, I love having fresh flowers around the house and would find this gesture to be very thoughtful.
First off, don't get her flowers at all. Bad move.
Next, you have to make a move on her. Stop putting her on a pedestal. Go as far as you can with her and make her say no. If she wants sex, she will have it with you if you make a move. If you don't make a move, she will think there is something wrong with you.
After 3 great dates that I treated her to that weren't exactly cheap, she said she'd like to return the favor with a nice date at her apartment and she'll cook me dinner. Is this just a nice date idea or is she inviting me to spend the night? I live within walking distance of her place. I figured I'd grab a bottle of wine and maybe some small flowers or something and bring them over. I've never had a woman cook for me before as a date. Things are going well, we talk a lot and she makes me laugh, sometimes she seems a little critical but then claims to be joking afterwards. I like her, she's definitely marriage material (from what I know so far) but I still feel like I need to take it slow and make sure I pay attention to red flags. I need to know if she's a girl that just jumps from guy to guy like my last gf who broke my heart. She seems into me, and that's great, but I don't want to be just a guy that she moves really fast with early on and then it flames out and she chalks it up to "chemistry not there anymore". I feel like it's really easy to get in that situation and I'm not looking to go through that again. I'm trying to be open minded and go with the flow of something great developing, but I really really want to play it safe too.
Oh, good grief! A woman offers to reciprocate your generosity, and you're assuming she's "paying" you with sex? Why would you assume that? She's not a hooker. Dinner means dinner. It's a little scary to know that men think this way.
After 3 great dates that I treated her to that weren't exactly cheap, she said she'd like to return the favor with a nice date at her apartment and she'll cook me dinner. Is this just a nice date idea or is she inviting me to spend the night? I live within walking distance of her place. I figured I'd grab a bottle of wine and maybe some small flowers or something and bring them over. I've never had a woman cook for me before as a date. Things are going well, we talk a lot and she makes me laugh, sometimes she seems a little critical but then claims to be joking afterwards. I like her, she's definitely marriage material (from what I know so far) but I still feel like I need to take it slow and make sure I pay attention to red flags. I need to know if she's a girl that just jumps from guy to guy like my last gf who broke my heart. She seems into me, and that's great, but I don't want to be just a guy that she moves really fast with early on and then it flames out and she chalks it up to "chemistry not there anymore". I feel like it's really easy to get in that situation and I'm not looking to go through that again. I'm trying to be open minded and go with the flow of something great developing, but I really really want to play it safe too.
Dude that's all I had to read....you're getting some fo sho. What a playah.
I would take the advice of women here, given that you want to know her perspective.
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there's no point inviting a man over even for dinner they think everything is an invitation for sex. I mean, my God, only knew this woman for 3 dates....
