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You may say that I should consult an attorney, that's right, but, I can't affort it, right now.
I'm a hispanic moved from NY, married for 10 yrs, two lovelly kids, but her mother lose her self control, and wants file for divorce. It was hard for me, been an excelent father and home provider, as she has been agreed.
I'm a very normal, educated, good person, overall, but this is the end of our relationship. Will be late when she realize she's been wrong.
How can I my two kids living close to me, I mean, in the same town, or same city? Because they need me, maybe a little more than her mother, for thei development, and their education , and to help them in their homework.
But you may be asking yourself: What did I do? and I will tell you, that she doesn't feel that I love her.
Just because of that she made a lot of mistake in the relationship, and it been worts.
So, please give some feed back and advise. I'm sufering too much, knowing that I'm going to lose my fatherhood.
Consult an attorney. Most don't charge for a consultation to speak with them. Have you both tried marriage couseling. That could be a good start. If she doesn't want to, how about just going yourself. Good luck. Sorry to hear what you're going through.
I don't want to say anything to upset you, but I think you need to FIND the money for an attorney. If you do not have an attorney, there will be no one to fight for your rights as a father. We live in a society where (right or wrong) consideration is given first to the mother/wife -- if your soon-to-be-ex-wife is in the position of having an attorney, she could very easily take everything you own, AND your children. You need an advocate. I would start calling places, and not worry about the cost -- you need to find someone who will work with you to make the cost something you can pay long-term. Right now, you need to protect yourself.
I strongly encourage you to arm yourself with an advocate. If you don't, you could very well be left high-and-dry.
Have you tried going to counseling with your wife? Many times there are things people do in relationships, and a lot of it boils down to a lot of misunderstandings and lack of communication. If you truly love your wife in any way, I'd suggest going to a counselor before you do anything.
Another suggestion is to apply for a credit card and charge your legal expenses to it. Is your wife expecting you to foot the entire bill for the divorce? Does she work? Will she expect alimony? If you are able to have full custody of your children, then you won't have to pay child support.
That was a very mean spirited comment. The guy asked for help not to be criticized.
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No I m just telling the truth for the kids sake. I do not mean to put him down. That's the problem with this society we are living in. Everyone is so politicaly correct now. Sometimes people just need to realized (look below)
I mean look at the advise here
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Another suggestion is to apply for a credit card and charge your legal expenses to it. Is your wife expecting you to foot the entire bill for the divorce? Does she work? Will she expect alimony? If you are able to have full custody of your children, then you won't have to pay child support.
You are asking the guy to dig his hole deeper so he has no way to get back up.... give up the kids for now ....until you can stand up for yourself then get them back. Think about them, their welfare not his desire.
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