What if your SO will never admit they are wrong? (how to, married)

[1717Guy]

Just wondering if anyone else has this problem and if they have any good ideas how to deal with it?

Thanks.

[tazzled]

Point out that no one can be right 100% of the time? Attempting to argue may prove to be an exercise in futility.

[rhacer]

In those cases arguing does little to no good. You need to come up with other less obvious ways of making your point.

Admitting you are wrong is a difficult skill. Many parents don't teach their children this skill, so it's more and more difficult to find people who are actually able to exercise it.

[Billy_J]

Just point out that you are perfect, so there is no way YOU could possibly ever be wrong!

[JrzDefector]

If I wasn't married to them, I'd walk. I was with a guy like that for a while, and it REALLY messed with my head. People who cannot admit they are wrong despite the demands of logic, decency and empirical evidence have serious psychological issues, and there's no sense banging your head against that wall.

[silverbelles]

I couldn't deal with it. It is a true sign of upstanding character, in my mind, to admit that you're wrong sometimes. To say you're sorry. If someone felt the need to be right 100% of the time or could never admit fault for anything, our relationship would not last.

[mommabear2]

I agree with JrzDefector and silverbelles - there's no way I could be with someone who never admitted they were wrong even in the face of facts to prove otherwise. To me, that's someone who reveals themselves to be too immature to recognize their own flaws. More than likely they will have a really hard time having meaningful, functional relationships in the long run.

Run for it while you still can.

[kimbo28]

I think that mommabear nailed it. It's definitely a character flaw.

I dated someone that was like this for a long time. Sometimes I'd just say 'whatever' and walk away, other times I'd stick to my guns and prove him wrong but regardless - he wouldn't ever say "I made a mistake, I was wrong."

[Raena77]

So I see you have met my mother.

Best thing to do is find their weaknesses.

Or put them in a situation where they said one thing and they have to do it that way. Then in doing so, they realize how wrong they are.

I find that a know it all really is very insecure with themselves or lack confidence.

[Prince_Frog]

I know several guys who are like this.

It's a driving reason why they are single, yet refuse to change.