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This is for the singles on here. I've been single for a while, sometimes by choice, sometimes by experiences, but regardless of why I am single. I have up periods and down periods. I'll see friends or co-workers who are sharing miserable stories about their wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend and just hearing the stress and drama makes me really happy that I don't have to deal with someone else at the moment, and then there are other times after being alone for a while where I'll go out to eat or to a bar and notice people kissing or having a great time and I'll remember when I had that with my exes and wish I had someone to do the same with me as I look at the empty barstool or seat next to me.
This time of year can leave single people feeling really left out and depressed even more than normal because of all of the advertising, movies, activities for non-singles ect.... I wanted to share a small piece of advice that helps me to not dwell on whether or not I have someone in life to love me or for me to love this time of year and most other times of the year.
I find that when I stay away from watching movies that have any kind of love stories or music that talks about love/relationships that I don't feel too depressed about being alone. That kind of entertainment just brings up emotions from the past or makes you feel like there is something wrong with you because you are alone. I also stay away from any jewelry store commercials on the radio or tv. As soon as I see one I turn it immediatly because what they are saying doesn't relate to me at this time. I turn condom commercials and Viagra commercials as well, I mean who wants to know about the Trojan Twister this time of year....lol
So are there some habits/things you do to avoid the holiday blues or loneliness in general?
Being single doesn't depress me, nor does seeing people around me happily coupled.
The only time I feel a little blue is if I have no one to kiss at midnight on New Years, but that's just a fleeting moment and life marches on.
yeah, some of the global events or special events where you can't experience it with a special someone is where it gets most of us.
Personally when I had someone, I never really cared to go out and be in a crowd, I always wanted to spend it with just her and myself, a nice candle light dinner, and just spend the evening together, including NYE.
Why is being single on Xmas depressing? You don't normally go on a date then have sex on Xmas, most people spend time with family or friends.
There's more advertising this time of year catering to couples and more activities for couples to enjoy than normal. At least it seems that way to me, I don't know about anyone else. It does take a couple to make a family right?
Generally this is the time of year when people dont want to be lonely. Its cold outside and tis the season to cuddle and mingle. From feasting on Turkey et al from Thanks giving to xmas and everything else in betweeen makes your hormones crazy. Between Thanks Giving day and Valentines day millions of women will become pregnant an by late august mid october plenty of babies will be born.
Why is being single on Xmas depressing? You don't normally go on a date then have sex on Xmas, most people spend time with family or friends.
Speak for yourself..
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