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View Poll Results: Men, would you rather date an ex-stripper with 2 partners or a woman with 15 partners
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Ex-stripper with 2 partners
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54.55% |
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Woman with 15 partners
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12-10-2012, 03:39 AM
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Originally Posted by Betsy84
How are you relating the study to the scenario you posted? How would one factor in difficulties of dating an ex-stripper(potential family/friend disapproval)?
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I'm not. I was only replying to a statement made by another poster that the number of woman's sexual partners is meaningless. I agree that the factors you mention could matter.
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Originally Posted by Betsy84
It seems like the study is mostly identifying women who have had only one sexual partner as being less risky in terms of divorce rates. What percentage of women fall in to that category at marriage?
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Yes, the Teachman study only uses that distinction. But there are more data files available from the government surveys. This analysis shows that the divorce rate increases for women with 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6-9, 10-19, 20+ sex partners (for men also but not as much). I haven't tried to validate it.
The researcher speculates: "However, an intimate premarital relationship with someone other than one’s marital partner may indicate increased risk to subsequent marital disruption. Multiple premarital sexual partners may indicate less commitment to the idea of a permanent relationship with one individual. Multiple sexual partners may also weaken the marital bond by heightening awareness of alternatives to one’s marital partner as sources of sexual intimacy and fulfillment. "
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Originally Posted by Betsy84
So you are going to look at dating in terms of who might be more likely to divorce...how would you even know that information before you dated someone?
OP, if you think the study is important, do you think either gender is up front with this information in the dating process...I'd say no. Do you ask women this early in the dating process?
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Absolutely, valid questions. But the poll was just a hypothetical. I'm not saying that you should go around asking or anything like that.
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Originally Posted by Betsy84
And lastly, just because a study might show a trend, it doesn't mean at all that you'll have that same experience.
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Of course. But if only each person's individual experiences counted, we wouldn't be able to talk about general trends and they apparently exist. There are exceptions to every rule but talking about averages is not meaningless.
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Perhaps I'm confused, but the study utilized information gathered in 1995, is what I understood.
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Yes, but using newer data, from 2002 and 2006-2008 does not change the pattern.
Last edited by first one; 12-10-2012 at 03:56 AM..
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12-10-2012, 07:52 AM
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I think it's likely that the woman with 15 partners is being honest about her past, while the ex-stripper is not.
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12-10-2012, 08:00 AM
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As I've said time and time again, if it "didnt matter" people wouldn't feel the need to lie about the number
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12-10-2012, 08:07 AM
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The minute guys say " I'm young, I don't want to settle down, I want to sleep around" then girls have no choice but to copy them. Then guys are shocked when girls do it way better than them.
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12-10-2012, 08:10 AM
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Originally Posted by rhacer
This is one of the dumbest things I've ever seen. Who cares how many sexual partners someone has had if you have signed on to be in a relationship with them. My first wife was a virgin on our wedding night. My second wife has had several partners, I've never bothered to ask how many because it simply doesn't matter.
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Maybe you should ask her to explain each of them in sordid detail, and then come back and tell us all how much you don't care. |
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12-10-2012, 08:12 AM
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The minute guys say " I'm young, I don't want to settle down, I want to sleep around" then girls have no choice but to copy them.
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How do you figure this? |
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12-10-2012, 08:14 AM
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How do you figure this?
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Figure what? That girls copy guys? They have no choice. |
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12-10-2012, 08:16 AM
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Originally Posted by srjth
Figure what? That girls copy guys? They have no choice.
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I'm asking how you figure they have no choice .
You could just as easily reverse it, and say that if all women required marriage before sex, or something like that, that all men would have no choice but to comply.
It's just as true, and just as academic of a point, since not all people will have the same views. |
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12-10-2012, 08:18 AM
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Originally Posted by le roi
You could just as easily reverse it, and say that if all women required marriage before sex, or something like that, that all men would have no choice but to comply.
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That would be true. I don't know how else to explain it to you. |
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12-10-2012, 08:22 AM
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Originally Posted by le roi
It's just as true, and just as academic of a point, since not all people will have the same views.
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I'm talking about when a girl is surrounded by guys who say they want to sleep around or who think you have to be at a certain place or a certain older age before you marry. This is quite common among young people. |
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