Poll for men: would you rather date an ex-stripper with 2 partners or a woman with 15 partners (boyfriends, cheater)

[le roi]

Originally Posted by srjth

I'm talking about when a girl is surrounded by guys who say they want to sleep around or who think you have to be at a certain place or a certain older age before you marry. This is quite common among young people.

As a young person I think it's an interesting rationalization for sleeping around, although not one conducive to monogamy.

To claim that "women are better at sleeping around" is true, but ignores the greater consequences women face for doing so.

[Sherifftruman]

Honestly, neither of those would bother me one way or the other.

[srjth]

Originally Posted by le roi

As a young person I think it's an interesting rationalization for sleeping around, although not one conducive to monogamy.

To claim that "women are better at sleeping around" is true, but ignores the greater consequences women face for doing so.

It's not a rationalization (what girls do), it's just a fact. That is correct that girls have consequences, but it doesn't change the fact that it still will happen. It's not a competition. There are always guys around wanting to sleep with a girl (when you're young, all of them) and she is human too just like guys, except that she's hoping for more.

[Vic 2.0]

I voted "woman with 15 partners", but of course I would not likely have an interest in either.

I do feel that it isn't what a person did in their past in and of itself that's important, but past misdeeds can tell you a lot about their specific flaws in personality, which is fairly consistent over time. And while being in so many relationships can imply any number of problems, it doesn't necessarily imply an overly liberal view of sex/nudity, which happens to be one of the traits I'm most incompatible with. I'll admit it's a baseless assumption. But I think someone who was a stripper for two years is less likely to tell our future son/daughter it was a mistake and no one should do it. I think women (and even men) are more likely to admit they shouldn't have had so many past sexual relationships, no matter how many they did have.

[le roi]

Originally Posted by srjth

It's not a rationalization (what women do), it's just a fact.

i don't agree. it is never a fact that a woman is surrounded solely by guys who just want to sleep around.

now, perhaps there are cases when the guys she expects to date just want to sleep around, but that should be called what it is.

[srjth]

Originally Posted by le roi

i don't agree. it is never a fact that a woman is surrounded solely by guys who just want to sleep around.

now, perhaps there are cases when the guys she expects to date just want to sleep around, but that should be called what it is.

From a girls point of view, a guy who wants to continually have sex with you but doesn't want to get married is no different than a guy who sleeps around. They both look non-committal. Just like a stripper with 2 partners looks no different to a guy than a non-stripper with 15 partners. They both devalue something important.

[Vatnos]

Both. I don't find women's sexuality threatening. Next question.

[Betsy84]

Originally Posted by first one

Of course. But if only each person's individual experiences counted, we wouldn't be able to talk about general trends and they apparently exist. There are exceptions to every rule but talking about averages is not meaningless.

Do men choose who to date based on a long term guess of how likely they'd be to divorce later? Do they think marrying someone with fewer sexual partners will mean more happiness and less divorce.

My guess is that those with fewer sexual partners come from more conservative backgrounds where divorce is less likely to be acceptable. That doesn't necessarily translate into better relationships.

[rhacer]

Originally Posted by le roi

Maybe you should ask her to explain each of them in sordid detail, and then come back and tell us all how much you don't care.

I know enough about her past relationships to know I don't care. What I do know is that she chose to marry me, not some other guy.

[le roi]

Originally Posted by rhacer

I know enough about her past relationships to know I don't care. What I do know is that she chose to marry me, not some other guy.

Ignorance isnt the same as not caring.