Poll for men: would you rather date an ex-stripper with 2 partners or a woman with 15 partners (cheated, sex)

[kimbo28]

Originally Posted by dejaentendu19

By what age? I would think that is relevant. Are we just talking about single women in big cities?

I'd say that out of my 7 closest friends, male and female (we're all 28), I'm the only one that hasn't reached that total.

[Vic 2.0]

Originally Posted by fightforlove

Most American women have had at least 15 partners.

Originally Posted by dejaentendu19

By what age? I would think that is relevant. Are we just talking about single women in big cities?

Originally Posted by kimbo28

I'd say that out of my 7 closest friends, male and female (we're all 28), I'm the only one that hasn't reached that total.

You know, I think this says more about a woman's (or a man's) lack of good judgement in relationships and/or in general. These numbers would mean that even if a person started at 16, that's at least one new sexual partner a year. This could mean they couldn't make a relationship last longer than that... for 12 years (or they cheated). Of course, it could also mean they had one or two decent-sized relationships and then had others they slept with within a few months of knowing each other only to break it off. Also a sign of poor judgement, IMO, as would be the case if any of these were one-night stands, casual sex partners, etc.

I did vote for the woman with 15 partners, but it wasn't because I would be fine with dating her either. It's just that I think a woman being a stripper for two years says some very specific things about her views of sexuality/nudity whereas a woman having 15 partners by 27 could be explained in more various ways. Moreso, as I said earlier, I think most women who strip for 2 years would never call it a mistake or tell other people (including children) to never do it. From a parent's perspective, I have to think about this sort of thing. Conversely, I believe a person is more likely to admit sex with many partners was a mistake as they mature, for whatever reason. I admit this is all just a feeling; I can't prove any of it.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by Nairobi

Don't be so sure. Being a stripper doesn't necessarily mean a woman has a lot of experience. In fact, I had a friend who was an exotic dancer and she was surprisingly a bit of a prude when it came to actual sex.

I'm sure some exist but they are unlikely. And who wants a prude for a girlfriend, especially if she's also a stripper?

[Rakin]

Can I have both and have a 3-some ?

Win - Win - Win for everyone.

[Nairobi]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

I'm sure some exist but they are unlikely. And who wants a prude for a girlfriend, especially if she's also a stripper?

Do you have any evidence of this, or are you just going by what society and the media tells you to believe about women who strip? I never suggested anyone would want a prude for a girlfriend. I was just arguing against the idea that stripper = loose woman. She doesn't necessarily have to be one of two extremes. She could posess a completely normal attitude about sex.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by Nairobi

Do you have any evidence of this, or are you just going by what society and the media tells you to believe about women who strip? I never suggested anyone would want a prude for a girlfriend. I was just arguing against the idea that stripper = loose woman. She doesn't necessarily have to be one of two extremes. She could posess a completely normal attitude about sex.

The OP asked about an ex-stripper who has slept with two people. I said that she is probably not telling the truth. You said that you know a stripper who is "a bit of a prude," which is unlikely for a stripper to be.

At this point, what are you arguing with me about? That it's typical for someone who used to strip to have slept with only two people (and I'm not sure what "a bit of a prude" means in relation to that statement)? I didn't say strippers are loose people. Both my posts stated that strippers with only two sexual partners are rare, and you are telling me "she doesn't have to be one of two extremes." An extreme is what the OP is about. So I am lost about what you are trying to get me to understand, sorry.

[Vic 2.0]

Originally Posted by Nairobi

Don't be so sure. Being a stripper doesn't necessarily mean a woman has a lot of experience. In fact, I had a friend who was an exotic dancer and she was surprisingly a bit of a prude when it came to actual sex.

Originally Posted by JustJulia

I'm sure some exist but they are unlikely.

Originally Posted by Nairobi

Do you have any evidence of this, or are you just going by what society and the media tells you to believe about women who strip?

Why are those the only options? Maybe she was going by reasoning. If a woman will take her clothes off for the enjoyment of a bunch of strangers (most of them pigs, IMO), chances are there isn't much she won't do or hasn't done already in the way of sex. No, it doesn't mean they are all "loose". But I agree with JustJulia; I think the ones that aren't are few and far between.

And maybe your friend was a "prude", or maybe she was just acting like one when it came to actual sex as a way of saving face, considering her profession. Gotta get a sense of dignity from somewhere, after all *shrugs*

[Nairobi]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

The OP asked about an ex-stripper who has slept with two people. I said that she is probably not telling the truth. You said that you know a stripper who is "a bit of a prude," which is unlikely for a stripper to be.

At this point, what are you arguing with me about? That it's typical for someone who used to strip to have slept with only two people (and I'm not sure what "a bit of a prude" means in relation to that statement)? I didn't say strippers are loose people. Both my posts stated that strippers with only two sexual partners are rare, and you are telling me "she doesn't have to be one of two extremes." An extreme is what the OP is about. So I am lost about what you are trying to get me to understand, sorry.

Well, you were essentially saying that a stripper who was a prude or with only two partners in their past was unlikely. I'm trying to figure out what your basis is for saying this.

Where I come from, many young ladies who strip do it almost solely for the easy money. A lot of these women are in college, married with kids, or in committed relationships. They're just comfortable enough with their bodies that they don't mind showing skin to get money from dumb, drunk men.

My only point is that you shouldn't exactly make assumptions about a woman's sexual behavior based on her job...unless having sex is her job.

[JustJulia]

My general basis for saying that is that two partners is below the norm in general, with strippers skewing higher due to the sexual nature of their jobs. I would expect a stripper to be less sexually inhibited than average.

[Nairobi]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

My general basis for saying that is that two partners is below the norm in general, with strippers skewing higher due to the sexual nature of their jobs. I would expect a stripper to be less sexually inhibited than average.

How you can be so certain of this is what I'm trying to understand.

Also, if she's a stripper who's under 25, I wouldn't have a hard time believing her if she said that she's only been with two men.