Strong enough for your SO? (emotionally, relations, reason, attract)
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My husband and I are both pretty strong as individuals but thankfully our weak spots are different. I am able to hold things together fairly well in most crisis situations, however if there is an emergency with the kids I have a hard time not getting worked up. My family has a history of serious health problems arising in children and my husband had a heart valve collapse as a child. It's incredibly difficult for me to control my emotions and I tend to think things are more serious than they really are. However, my husband has a very difficult time when a friend or family member passes. I can keep it together when that happens.
Being the one who had to hold it together while the other freaked out got old. Emotional stability in a partner = priceless. It's good for a guy to be in touch with his emotions, but not so much when the only emotions he is in touch with are frustration, anxiety, and anger.
Is there one person who should be stronger in some ways then your SO? Not talking about strength, as I am about being there for them to lean on you mentally strong for them. Any down or ups to this? I don't think just one person should carry all the weight of the relationship on themselves all the time, a good blaance helps but I do believe that one might carry more of the load then another. Even if it's a different way.
Each partner is going to need to lean on the other at different times. Both need to be strong enough for the other.
I think we all want someone to lean on While I agree that you have to be able to lean on them some times it's not always equal. I personally like being the strong one in my relationship. In past relationships it was more equal then now. Sounds crazy I'm sure but in the past I have only been strong enough got myself & on one else.
Being the one who had to hold it together while the other freaked out got old. Emotional stability in a partner = priceless. It's good for a guy to be in touch with his emotions, but not so much when the only emotions he is in touch with are frustration, anxiety, and anger.
Or even sadness. I dated Eeyore for a while and, let me tell you, not fun.
This thread is eye-opening.
Never thought about it, but now that I have, it highlights a fact I never realized.
One big reason I am attracted to my wife is her strength.
I figure I can handle anything and have always been the 'strong one' in every relationship in the past...in this one, there are TWO strong ones...it totally explains why this has been the least stressful 7 years of my life.
Priceless = knowing someone else can totally carry you (emotionally, financially, etc) if you ever fall.
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