How do I kindly tell someone it's not a good idea to meet after talking for a while online? (dating, how to)

[Canada Boy]

How do I do this?
I'm 25 m, she's 40 f. We "met" on a dating site.

We have only been talking for 2 days, but aside from her always texting me:

• She's told me she's lonely
• She cries every day
• How nervous she is to meet me
• Cried to me on the phone about how attached she is to me already
• How much she hates her ex
• How she wants to escape with me to a private island (she wasn't joking)
• How she wishes I was older
• How she met a guy last month 3000 miles away, flew down to meet him, had sex, flew back, never saw him again
• She's talking to another guy 2000 miles away online and is in love with him
• Has sent me dirty pictures
• Has straight up told me she wants to have sex with me
• Invited me over (address included) for a massage tonight

I would feel really ****ty if I just had sex with her and never contacted her again, plus it's not healthy for her either.

Problem is we've been talking a lot, and I've given her no indication I don't want to meet.

So, two questions:

1) Should I meet her
2) If not, how can I be kind about it?

[funymann]

I think you know the answer.

Did they ever find the guy she had sex with.

She said she never saw him again.

Perhaps buried on that island she mentioned.

[jsun556]

Hard to say no to guaranteed booty, but she sounds so psychotic that might be a reason to run away fast.

I've had to do this... it sucks because you're fighting against your natural male urges but there are some times you have to think with the big head.

[Auraliea]

This woman sounds like she has a lot of issues.

If she is in love with another man 2000 miles away, why is she telling you things like she wishes you were older and sending you dirty pictures AFTER the fact that she has told you she is in love with another man? Why is she telling you all her business to begin with?

Like the first poster said, you already know the answer.

[Meyerland]

She sounds psychotic and you should stay far away from that bit of fatal attraction. Text her that you feel like there are too many issues between you, and you are not interested. Ask her to not text you or contact you at all and that you wish her well in life.

[hawaiiancoconut]

She sounds desperate for any kind of championship.

The choice is yours.

[Canada Boy]

Originally Posted by jsun556

Hard to say no to guaranteed booty, but she sounds so psychotic that might be a reason to run away fast.

I've had to do this... it sucks because you're fighting against your natural male urges but there are some times you have to think with the big head.

exactly.

[funymann]

Originally Posted by Meyerland

She sounds psychotic and you should stay far away from that bit of fatal attraction. Text her that you feel like there are too many issues between you, and you are not interested. Ask her to not text you or contact you at all and that you wish her well in life.

Obviously you have not dealt with 'crazy.'

That's not how to get rid of them.

[oh-eve]

After all her crying and complaining you deserve a little fun.

Go there, bang the shyte out of her and then block her number.

She might cry but she cries anyway, so ...?

[hawaiiancoconut]

Originally Posted by oh-eve

After all her crying and complaining you deserve a little fun.

Go there, bang the shyte out of her and then block her number.

She might cry but she cries anyway, so ...?

Lol, I was just thinking the same thing. But the OP might not make it out of there in one piece.