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Old 12-18-2012, 09:31 AM
Location: NC
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LOL already a serious boyfriend? Is it the man she was having an internet affair with for 2 years in your marriage?

Good riddance....

Suggest lunch with the MIL or FIL.... I wouldn't have them to your place.
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Old 12-18-2012, 09:36 AM
Location: Katonah, NY
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I don't think there is any "should" in this situation - it's up to you what you want. My aunt and her ex husband remain close friends. So I still saw my ex-uncle over the years (I haven't seen him in awhile because I moved away). One of my friend's parents divorced after 20 something years - and her mother is still close with her father's family. It's all up to you and what you are comfortable with.
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Old 12-18-2012, 11:24 AM
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Divorce means the marriage is annulled.

It doesn't mean that the parties have to hate each other for the rest of their lives.

And it certainly doesn't mean that families and friends of the couple, or either of the partners, need to be put on ice.

I went through this with my Ex. The friends and family with whom i had grown quite close were suddenly 'off limits'. That is just dumb.

Not to mention hard on the individuals who don't know the details of what is going on between the partners and suddenyl are 'told' to take sides. When there are younger folks involved, it is particularly harsh.

Go where your heart wishes. If you wish to continue the relationship with the ex', go right ahead.

Ignore the new B/F (be gracious), keep your eyes open for signs of some sort of trickery, and enjoy the fact that someone wants to keep you in their heart.

THAT doesn't happy every day.
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Old 12-18-2012, 11:47 AM
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Be polite, be civil. Don't expect to be their friends. If someone is being "too nice" they're up to something. A month after my divorce was finalized my ex mother-in-law left a voicemail wanting to know how I was doing etc. I never responded, I removed all her contact information from my phone and she didn't leave any. My answer would have been abrupt and curt. Two years later the ex MIL tried to follow me on twitter. I simply blocked her. Put the kibosh to any of that silliness without a whole lot of fuss. As far as I am concerned there is no need for friendship or contact.
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Old 12-18-2012, 11:48 AM
Location: Phoenix,AZ
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Do whatever is in your comfort zone.

I'm married and I don't want to deal with some of my in-laws.

Good luck and be nice.

Past relationship...(I was engaged).....

I didn't get invited to any weddings but sure caught hell being absent from funerals.

Last edited by YAZ; 12-18-2012 at 11:51 AM.. Reason: add
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Old 12-18-2012, 01:26 PM
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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I was really close to my ex husband's family. His parents were like 2nd parents to me and my SIL (his brother's wife) was one of my best friends. We stayed in touch for awhile and I don't have any bad feelings towards them, but I had to cut ties. My ex cheated on me as well and it was too hard for me to be around them knowing they accepted this home wrecker. Rationally I know they didn't have any other choice, they weren't going to disown their son and what else could they do? But for my own well being I couldn't be around it or hear about it. Cutting ties was best for me in the long run.
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