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What's interesting is that when I started this thread I wasn't thinking about education or career really, but more so values, priorities, and sure the former and everything else that fits under the umbrella. If she wants a fit man than she should be fit herself, engage in activities that fit people engage in. What I see on this forum is people pointing fingers outward and the exercise is fruitless. We can only change ourselves. I also believe in something another poster mentioned earlier this morning (be the person you want to attract, or something like that).
People will always point fingers outward because it's easier to blame the world for your shortcomings than yourself (external vs internal locus of control). I do agree with you.
She means that people tend to stick with others who are from similar backgrounds : SES, education, career, ambition, etc. Do you not agree?
But wouldn't it be boring if everyone followed that plan? What about taking a chance on the unknown instead of pigeonholing people? This is quite an American thing. It's a level of culture shock I don't think I'll ever get used to, but it is very much the norm. What a class & status divided society it is.
People will always point fingers outward because it's easier to blame the world for your shortcomings than yourself (external vs internal locus of control). I do agree with you.
I tend to think that it's seldom as black and white as that. It's not a level playing field. Some people are born into privilege or just stable homes, good DNA (attractiveness), while others are disadvantaged from the day they're born.
It is erroneous to apply the same logic to everyone. You could only do that if life was a great deal fairer than it is as of now.
But wouldn't it be boring if everyone followed that plan? What about taking a chance on the unknown instead of pigeonholing people? This is quite an American thing. It's a level of culture shock I don't think I'll ever get used to, but it is very much the norm. What a class & status divided society it is.
I don't necessarily mean a carbon copy. But (using myself as an example), I have a degree, work in a non-profit, and have plans for where I want to go within the non-profit sector. What would I have in common with someone who works as or wants to work as a hedge fund manager at a corporate bank?
LOL the reason why I "can't" get a date is because I refuse to deal with trash, stupidity, manwhores, POS's or a combination of any of the above. That leaves about 10 people in Miami and they are already married
But wouldn't it be boring if everyone followed that plan? What about taking a chance on the unknown instead of pigeonholing people? This is quite an American thing. It's a level of culture shock I don't think I'll ever get used to, but it is very much the norm. What a class & status divided society it is.
It's not just an American thing. It's a human historical thing, which is quite natural. People of similar religion, culture, race, education, value system have always coupled.
I tend to think that it's seldom as black and white as that. It's not a level playing field. Some people are born into privilege or just stable homes, good DNA (attractiveness), while others are disadvantaged from the day they're born.
It is erroneous to apply the same logic to everyone. You could only do that if life was a great deal fairer than it is as of now.
I'm not sure what this has to do with the point. Beautiful people, for example, prefer to date other beautiful people. I don't think this can be helped.
I tend to think that it's seldom as black and white as that. It's not a level playing field. Some people are born into privilege or just stable homes, good DNA (attractiveness), while others are disadvantaged from the day they're born.
It is erroneous to apply the same logic to everyone. You could only do that if life was a great deal fairer than it is as of now.
The world is not black and white, no. But there are opportunities to make up for your shortcomings if you acknowledge that you have them and seek to change them. It's much more difficult to opt to actively change your station than it is to sit and ***** about it, is it not?
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