Fear of dating single mothers (separated, friend, reason, honest)
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Yes thats why chivalry is dead. There is need to treat equals any different than anyone else. So you think Im sad because I don't date women who have kids with men who you feel 'God isn't kind enough' to kill? Ok. Im a sad man because Im not a man who raises another man's child because of your terrible choice in men...sure
I don't have control over someone else behaviour he decided to change a little far into it I mean 12 years not 12 days.......that was not the reason I said you were sad if you read back.
I am not looking for a man to raise my child I'm pretty good at doing it on my own
I will NEVER understand why people (for the sake of this topic single parents)think we childless should have to date them or if we refuse we must hate kids, etc. I like kids, I teach Sunday School even and enjoy working with kids. However, I have seen the disaster that a childless person encounters dating single parents so I avoid.
Many single parents act as if they can't possibly understand why a childless person wouldn't want to date them. And then they make snap judgments, which is the same thing that they accuse childless people of doing.
I don't have control over someone else behaviour he decided to change a little far into it I mean 12 years not 12 days.......that was not the reason I said you were sad if you read back.
I am not looking for a man to raise my child I'm pretty good at doing it on my own
But you do have a choice over your own. No one forced you to have kids with him. Im not mean, im just telling the truth. Single parents have it way harder than non parents. Its not nasty its true. Thats like a saying why to women prefer a man with a job over a man without one. Because the man with a job can provide better. It goes for both genders. If you can raise your kids fine on your own congrats. Just don't expect others to feel the same
I think that perhaps some single parents aren't facing the truth. I don't mean this in a disrespectful way, but being a single parent, for the most part, is a bit of a hindrance. There isn't a way that you can't not really see that. I've dated single mothers and it was a bit of a pain, just purely logistically reasons, dealing lack of spontaneity and other things as well, it really sucks if both people are really young like low 20's and at that age you just wanna go out and be spontaneous..... I think if people are bit older maybe not so much, IDK...
I've read women on this forum get just as nasty about single dads, just as much as some guys get about single moms.
I just think in practical terms, having a child and dating is a bit rougher is all. I don't begrudge single moms, heck it's a tough job, I know, I was raised by one.
But you do have a choice over your own. No one forced you to have kids with him. Im not mean, im just telling the truth. Single parents have it way harder than non parents. Its not nasty its true. Thats like a saying why to women prefer a man with a job over a man without one. Because the man with a job can provide better. It goes for both genders. If you can raise your kids fine on your own congrats. Just don't expect others to feel the same
Financially we're great and that's without his help.....I would not allow another man to help us, or pay for us.No I was not forced but he was good for as long as I knew him.
If someone turned me down because of my son then fair enough, it's a man I want anyway not a boy.
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Financially we're great and that's without his help.....I would not allow another man to help us, or pay for us.No I was not forced but he was good for as long as I knew him.
If someone turned me down because of my son then fair enough, it's a man I want anyway not a boy.
So males who choose not to date single parents are boys and not men? Okay, I get it. I'd never date anyone who held that attitude. Kid or no kid.
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he decided to change a little far into it I mean 12 years not 12 days.......that was not the reason I said you were sad if you read back.
