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How can anyone sympathize with the wife? She was having a physical and emotional affair for a year yet get mad when he went to a hooker once. Both cheated but lets be real she's been doing it for a much longer time and also denied her husband sex. Emotional affairs are worse than physical but she did both.
How can anyone sympathize with the wife? She was having a physical and emotional affair for a year yet get mad when he went to a hooker once. Both cheated but lets be real she's been doing it for a much longer time and also denied her husband sex. Emotional affairs are worse than physical but she did both.
First, we've only heard one side of the story. I'd love to know how frequent sex really was for them...some people complain if it's less than a few times a week and say "they were denying me sex!". Also, WHY weren't they having sex. Maybe she didn't communicate that to him, but maybe she did and he just didn't give a shyt enough to change.
As for the emotional affair being worse...like I said earlier, to each his own. If my husband ever stepped out and paid a hooker to have sex that, to me, would be worse than him falling in love with someone else. MUCH WORSE.
You've also got the timeline wrong. He went to the hooker first, then she had her affair. I'm assuming she wasn't brave enough to exit the marriage for whatever reason but just felt completely emotionally detached from him after learning he was with a hooker. That doesn't excuse her behavior but I can see how it could happen.
First, we've only heard one side of the story. I'd love to know how frequent sex really was for them...some people complain if it's less than a few times a week and say "they were denying me sex!". Also, WHY weren't they having sex. Maybe she didn't communicate that to him, but maybe she did and he just didn't give a shyt enough to change.
As for the emotional affair being worse...like I said earlier, to each his own. If my husband ever stepped out and paid a hooker to have sex that, to me, would be worse than him falling in love with someone else. MUCH WORSE.
You've also got the timeline wrong. He went to the hooker first, then she had her affair. I'm assuming she wasn't brave enough to exit the marriage for whatever reason but just felt completely emotionally detached from him after learning he was with a hooker. That doesn't excuse her behavior but I can see how it could happen.
I stand corrected. I probably shouldn't post after indulging in New Year's Eve scotch lol. You feel paying for sex is worse, I feel emotional is worse since that tends to lead to a full on relationship and sex. Why do you feel paying a hooker is worse, just wondering?
Can't speak for Sixy but I imagine such knowledge would reduce the man she loves and respects into something closer to a base, primitive idiot she doesn't even know.
I don't know that I would have the same reaction but I understand it.
Can't speak for Sixy but I imagine such knowledge would reduce the man she loves and respects into something closer to a base, primitive idiot she doesn't even know.
I don't know that I would have the same reaction but I understand it.
Yup, that's pretty much it.
I would never be able to look at him the same way. It would reduce him to some kind of primate with animalistic behavior. I'd see him as a piece of trash, likely becaue I know I would feel like a used piece of trash having empty sex with a complete stranger and I can't comprehend how somene would find that enjoyable or satisfying.
Now, don't get me wrong here...an emotional affair would crush me. However...I can understand how something like that could manifest. Things maybe start out as friends, progress to more intimate conversation, they get carried away and it turns physical. THAT I can understand because while yes, it's an affair and there is cheating and lying, the emotional connection and the need to show that physically is still a normal human relationship.
Sharing yourself physically with a complete stranger is not something I can wrap my head around. I just wouldn't be able to put myself in his shoes to even try and understand his actions.
First, we've only heard one side of the story. I'd love to know how frequent sex really was for them...some people complain if it's less than a few times a week and say "they were denying me sex!". Also, WHY weren't they having sex. Maybe she didn't communicate that to him, but maybe she did and he just didn't give a shyt enough to change.
As for the emotional affair being worse...like I said earlier, to each his own. If my husband ever stepped out and paid a hooker to have sex that, to me, would be worse than him falling in love with someone else. MUCH WORSE.
You've also got the timeline wrong. He went to the hooker first, then she had her affair. I'm assuming she wasn't brave enough to exit the marriage for whatever reason but just felt completely emotionally detached from him after learning he was with a hooker. That doesn't excuse her behavior but I can see how it could happen.
We've only heard one side of the story and may never know the true story. But if it's true that she was denying him sex (and emotional support) beforehand then maybe she was having an affair previously? His stepping out and getting caught may have given her the get out of jail free card to be open about it.
We've only heard one side of the story and may never know the true story. But if it's true that she was denying him sex (and emotional support) beforehand then maybe she was having an affair previously? His stepping out and getting caught may have given her the get out of jail free card to be open about it.
That could be too. But, this thread was started by a troll poster so everything at this point is just hypothetical. Still...it has good debating points.
I would never be able to look at him the same way. It would reduce him to some kind of primate with animalistic behavior. I'd see him as a piece of trash, likely becaue I know I would feel like a used piece of trash having empty sex with a complete stranger and I can't comprehend how somene would find that enjoyable or satisfying.
Sharing yourself physically with a complete stranger is not something I can wrap my head around. I just wouldn't be able to put myself in his shoes to even try and understand his actions.
Many if not most women cannot separate sex from love while many if not most men can. It's one of the biological differences between men and women and if you can't wrap your mind around that then you must not recognize that men are different from women, or you think your husband is a woman with woman's values.
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