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I just got back home after I went out with him this evening.
I basically put my foot down and told him I want the divorce finalized as soon as possible and that I'm sick of feeling like "the other woman". After having a bit of a breakdown, he assured me that they'll finalize the divorce as soon as possible. I told him that I do plan on moving in with him once the divorce proceedings pick up a bit.
He doesn't live with his wife. She lives at their old place in Westchester. He lives in an apartment on the Upper West Side. It's really convenient to get to from my apartment so I'm there several times a week with him. I do firmly believe they're separated.
As far as me being one of numerous girls at the firm under his spell. Unlikely. He's 33 and an American/Swedish dual-citizen, so he hasn't been with the company for all that long. Some of you guys assumed he was a scumbag or a dirty pervert which is hardly the case.
I do realize that I am taking an extreme risk in staying with him, but I'm willing to risk that.
You don't show good judgment AT ALL. Your risk tolerance, per your last line, shows that you think with your hormones and pituitary gland more than you do with your brain. First, this guy could, at the very earliest, have been a lawyer for 8 years and he's already getting divorced at 33? When you lose your job for banging some lawyer in your firm, will you be able to get a good reference from the firm? This sounds like a big joke all the way around, and the joke is on YOU.
-Break up with him and tell him it's because he's still married.
-Keep your job and weather through your emotions until they die down (they will).
- Start dating other people and forget about this dude.
(and, for the record, you should always keep your own place until you are married)
Well, if you break up with him you won't keep your job. You might as well go all the way and get pregnant. That way you know he'll leave his wife...............
.............oh...........next time you see him, ask him if his wife has a rabbit?..............and maybe a stewpot.............
Women who allow rabbits in the house just don't seem to be able to keep their husbands faithful, and things end up badly.
Why wouldn't she keep her job if she breaks up with him? She should... and he'd be all too happy to have her around. He'd probably even give her a raise if she broke up with him in an effort to get her back.
Another piece of trash from suburbia looking to live the Sex and the City lifestyle by moving to NYC and shaking up some bigshot. I really like women like you, there are plenty of women like you who come from fly over states and come to NYC looking for men with fat pockets.
Now now, let's not judge. If he is married, she's just taking advantage of a skunk that can't be true to his wife.
Now now, let's not judge. If he is married, she's just taking advantage of a skunk that can't be true to his wife.
The thing is that here in NYC there are plenty of women like her looking to be the next Ana who is looking for her Christian Grey. Her story sounds something out of a book.
OP Update: Originally Posted by NycNewbie1 "I just got back home after I went out with him this evening.
I basically put my foot down and told him I want the divorce finalized as soon as possible and that I'm sick of feeling like "the other woman". After having a bit of a breakdown, he assured me that they'll finalize the divorce as soon as possible. I told him that I do plan on moving in with him once the divorce proceedings pick up a bit.
He doesn't live with his wife. She lives at their old place in Westchester. He lives in an apartment on the Upper West Side. It's really convenient to get to from my apartment so I'm there several times a week with him. I do firmly believe they're separated.
As far as me being one of numerous girls at the firm under his spell. Unlikely. He's 33 and an American/Swedish dual-citizen, so he hasn't been with the company for all that long. Some of you guys assumed he was a scumbag or a dirty pervert which is hardly the case.
I do realize that I am taking an extreme risk in staying with him, but I'm willing to risk that."
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Originally Posted by kimbo28
ok, congrats. Glad you came to the forum for advice when your mind was already clearly made up.
Exactly what I was thinking. OP.........What was the point of this thread???
Last edited by JanND; 12-31-2012 at 09:11 AM..
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I'm sleeping with my boss...
