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Years ago when I was in between my first and second marriages, I worked as a nurse for a group of OB/GYN docs. The headguy was a 42 yr old. I was 29. It started as flirting. One night I went.to drop off files for him to sign. As I was leaving his office, he came up behind me, spun me around and started kissing me. It was very hot and I wanted him,.but he was married with a 5 yr old. You know, women can smell other women around their men. His wife started showing up un announced. I told him that I would not sleep with him. Hite kept pursuing me. Soon after, I met the man I would marry. He was worth it. The bottom line is, are you happy?
I moved to New York over a year ago from New Hampshire after graduating college to work as a paralegal while saving up for law school.
Well, all was going well. I found a great apartment, loved the area, and things were going well at work. I just found it really, really hard to meet people. I was attending some singles events, went clubbing, and I was going out to bars with co-workers. No luck.
Late February of this year I was staying late at work as the office was swamped in paperwork and I began working closely with my boss. We hit it off. I found a charming, funny, intelligent, masculine guy who... made me feel special.
We began seeing each other shortly after that (keeping our relationship secret from the office) and things were good. The only thing is he's married (no kids). He keeps telling me that they're separated and going to be divorcing but the fact is... he's married. I feel guilty for sleeping with a married man but I love him.
He wants me to move in with him but I don't know what to do. Do I end the relationship or not?
Won't you be > as hell when you find out you're not the only employee he has slept with?
I moved to New York over a year ago from New Hampshire after graduating college to work as a paralegal while saving up for law school.
Well, all was going well. I found a great apartment, loved the area, and things were going well at work. I just found it really, really hard to meet people. I was attending some singles events, went clubbing, and I was going out to bars with co-workers. No luck.
Late February of this year I was staying late at work as the office was swamped in paperwork and I began working closely with my boss. We hit it off. I found a charming, funny, intelligent, masculine guy who... made me feel special.
We began seeing each other shortly after that (keeping our relationship secret from the office) and things were good. The only thing is he's married (no kids). He keeps telling me that they're separated and going to be divorcing but the fact is... he's married. I feel guilty for sleeping with a married man but I love him.
He wants me to move in with him but I don't know what to do. Do I end the relationship or not?
Come on, be honest: you're a budding screenwriter and this is just a plot outline for the Lifetime Channel's Movie of the Week, right?
Lame. You should think-up someting more original. This scenario has been done to death over the years.
I don''t know how you can think this relationship is a good thing when you say stuff like this -
If I break up with him, I feel I'd have to leave the company and paralegal jobs are so hard to come by, there's no way I'd be able to pay my rent and other bills.
So, once again the man gets to do what he wants, and the younger less powerful woman pays the price.
Ask around. I will bet my house you are one of a loooooong line of silly little girls he has done this to, and then probably fired afterwards because he and his wife are "trying to work things out".
This, a million times.
Being separated can mean anything. It doesn't always mean that there will be a divorce. The minute the wife calls and says "I miss you, let's give it another try, for our kids," he'd likely feel sentimental and want to work things out. Then OP will be left heartbroken and baffled about all the things he told her.
I also doubt this is the first time he's done this with a naive woman or another employee. Zeroing in on the recent grad who's new in town, put on the charm, the moves, the BS, then kick to the curb - that's usually how it goes.
I had a boss who tried and tried to seduce me. He was attractive so I was kind of flattered. It took him 18 months and he got me on a bad day, my car had broken down and he came over to "fix" it.
Anyway we had sex once and he fired me 10 days later.
I never knew if it was the fact that he lasted 2 seconds embarrassed him, or if he just couldn't stand the anxiety every time his wife called the office (100 times a day) and I answered the phone.
Either way, he got a hysterical drunken phone call at home one night from me, I was extremely upset at being fired and the idiot had forgotten to pay me.
I bet he crapped himself.
A while later, I found out that he replaced me with a younger girl and was sleeping with her, too.
I also found out that I had somehow contracted chlamydia, and I was required to advise the Health Department who my partners were.
What to do, what to do...should I tell the married guy or not?
I had a relationship with my boss, and it was fine.
It's almost like bosses are regular people and the outcome can be good or bad.
Now, dating someone who's married...that may be a bit stickier.
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as hell when you find out you're not the only employee he has slept with?
Yaaaaaasssssss!
