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Old 12-29-2012, 11:29 AM
 
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I moved to New York over a year ago from New Hampshire after graduating college to work as a paralegal while saving up for law school.

Well, all was going well. I found a great apartment, loved the area, and things were going well at work. I just found it really, really hard to meet people. I was attending some singles events, went clubbing, and I was going out to bars with co-workers. No luck.

Late February of this year I was staying late at work as the office was swamped in paperwork and I began working closely with my boss. We hit it off. I found a charming, funny, intelligent, masculine guy who... made me feel special.

We began seeing each other shortly after that (keeping our relationship secret from the office) and things were good. The only thing is he's married (no kids). He keeps telling me that they're separated and going to be divorcing but the fact is... he's married. I feel guilty for sleeping with a married man but I love him.

He wants me to move in with him but I don't know what to do. Do I end the relationship or not?
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Old 12-29-2012, 11:31 AM
 
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I moved to New York over a year ago from New Hampshire after graduating college to work as a paralegal while saving up for law school.

Well, all was going well. I found a great apartment, loved the area, and things were going well at work. I just found it really, really hard to meet people. I was attending some singles events, went clubbing, and I was going out to bars with co-workers. No luck.

Late February of this year I was staying late at work as the office was swamped in paperwork and I began working closely with my boss. We hit it off. I found a charming, funny, intelligent, masculine guy who... made me feel special.

We began seeing each other shortly after that (keeping our relationship secret from the office) and things were good. The only thing is he's married (no kids). He keeps telling me that they're separated and going to be divorcing but the fact is... he's married. I feel guilty for sleeping with a married man but I love him.

He wants me to move in with him but I don't know what to do. Do I end the relationship or not?
End it.
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Old 12-29-2012, 11:34 AM
 
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I moved to New York over a year ago from New Hampshire after graduating college to work as a paralegal while saving up for law school.

Well, all was going well. I found a great apartment, loved the area, and things were going well at work. I just found it really, really hard to meet people. I was attending some singles events, went clubbing, and I was going out to bars with co-workers. No luck.

Late February of this year I was staying late at work as the office was swamped in paperwork and I began working closely with my boss. We hit it off. I found a charming, funny, intelligent, masculine guy who... made me feel special.

We began seeing each other shortly after that (keeping our relationship secret from the office) and things were good. The only thing is he's married (no kids). He keeps telling me that they're separated and going to be divorcing but the fact is... he's married. I feel guilty for sleeping with a married man but I love him.

He wants me to move in with him but I don't know what to do. Do I end the relationship or not?
I smell a troll, either you are trolling, or you are really dense...you got involved with a married man who is your boss on top of that? Dam, I guess they don't teach common sense in college.
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Old 12-29-2012, 11:37 AM
 
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Oh. Dear. Disaster. If the story is true, it will end badly.
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Old 12-29-2012, 11:38 AM
 
Location: Fredericksburg/Virginia Beach, VA
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I moved to New York over a year ago from New Hampshire after graduating college to work as a paralegal while saving up for law school.

Well, all was going well. I found a great apartment, loved the area, and things were going well at work. I just found it really, really hard to meet people. I was attending some singles events, went clubbing, and I was going out to bars with co-workers. No luck.

Late February of this year I was staying late at work as the office was swamped in paperwork and I began working closely with my boss. We hit it off. I found a charming, funny, intelligent, masculine guy who... made me feel special.

We began seeing each other shortly after that (keeping our relationship secret from the office) and things were good. The only thing is he's married (no kids). He keeps telling me that they're separated and going to be divorcing but the fact is... he's married. I feel guilty for sleeping with a married man but I love him.

He wants me to move in with him but I don't know what to do. Do I end the relationship or not?
If he is sleeping around on his wife today, he'll be doing it again in a few years when you are his wife. if this story is true, this guy is a dirt bag for cheating. He isn't worth it. Get out while you can.
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Old 12-29-2012, 11:42 AM
 
Location: SWUS
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Don't poop where you eat.
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Old 12-29-2012, 11:43 AM
 
Location: NoVA
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Everyone deserves a relationship, even those with broken marriages. You're already in the middle of one marriage that's on the chopping block, so feel free to continue what you're doing now; just don't be surprised with the drama that will inevitably be all up in your business later on down the road. Some people can hack it, some can't. Which one are you? Time will tell.
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Old 12-29-2012, 11:45 AM
 
Location: Louisiana
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If he is sleeping around on his wife today, he'll be doing it again in a few years when you are his wife. if this story is true, this guy is a dirt bag for cheating. He isn't worth it. Get out while you can.
^Truth. Just end it. I can't see how this situation can end well at all.
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Old 12-29-2012, 11:46 AM
 
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Move in with him.
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Old 12-29-2012, 11:50 AM
 
Location: NYC
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An older, married man who sleeps with his subordinate(s) is quite a catch. Moving in with him is an excellent idea.
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