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Not to mention all the financial issues. Many people don't realize that if they marry someone the money will affect them. In many cases the stepparents get stuck paying child support or alimony. Even if that doesn't happen the money loss to the household will affect the new stepparent and in many states the parents might pay more because the new spouse makes a lot.
This is baloney. At best, it is an extremely rare corner case depending on specific situations.
The amount of CS and SS is based strictly on the payer's income which is not combined with their new spouse's income.
This is baloney. At best, it is an extremely rare corner case depending on specific situations.
The amount of CS and SS is based strictly on the payer's income which is not combined with their new spouse's income.
This is baloney. At best, it is an extremely rare corner case depending on specific situations.
The amount of CS and SS is based strictly on the payer's income which is not combined with their new spouse's income.
Now this is true and allow me to elaborate. A step parent isn't liable for anything. While there are variations when settling, typically when it comes to money child support is until 18 and if a woman remarries she no longer qualifies for alimony. (Men as well).
The other thing, and I repeat with dread. Who ever pays alimony can deducted it from their tax return and the person on the receiving end has to pay taxes - money she most likely paid taxes on already.
Now this is true and allow me to elaborate. A step parent isn't liable for anything. While there are variations when settling, typically when it comes to money child support is until 18 and if a woman remarries she no longer qualifies for alimony. (Men as well).
The other thing, and I repeat with dread. Who ever pays alimony can deducted it from their tax return and the person on the receiving end has to pay taxes - money she most likely paid taxes on already.
It's NOT true. In Illinois they can go after the parent and have him/her pay more if the new spouse makes more. There is also a bill they are trying to pass where stepparents in certain cases will pay child support after the marriage or even the relationship breaks up.
In Illinois, courts may now consider income of a parent's new spouse on an equitable basis when determining child support. In Illinois and similarly-minded states, courts are no longer required to ignore financial resources contributed by a new spousehttp://www.attorneys.com/child-suppo...ousal-support/
It's NOT true. In Illinois they can go after the parent and have him/her pay more if the new spouse makes more. There is also a bill they are trying to pass where stepparents in certain cases will pay child support after the marriage or even the relationship breaks up.
In Illinois, courts may now consider income of a parent's new spouse on an equitable basis when determining child support. In Illinois and similarly-minded states, courts are no longer required to ignore financial resources contributed by a new spouseImpacts of Remarriage on Child and Spousal Support - Attorneys.com
What a completely ridiculous law.
The incentives for men to get married, especially to a single mother, just keep piling up. /sarc
1) Ex always in the picture
2) Financially caring for someone else's spawn
3) Will never be #1 in their life
4) I want my own family
5) Resentment/disrespect for not being the "real dad" from the kid
Also, on my local POF, there are at least a couple of women who are under 30 and have 4 (!!!) children, and there ad title is something to the effect of "tired of lies and games," or "where are all the good men???!?!?!"
Meh...I'll pass on those, too.
What does having X number of kids have to do with the quote above? I am 29, and I have three kids fathered by my first husband, whom I was married to for a decade. So, what, exactly, are you implying here?
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You're right, the idea is accurate. But then the question becomes, why would a man, all things being equal, want to date her?
Perhaps she has certain, desirable qualities and attributes that other women, with or without children, do not possess?
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I think dating single mothers is for guys with fewer options. Because, again, given the choice between kids/no kids....a single guy with no kids will pick the childless woman almost every time.
Or, it's for the men who are attracted to a particular woman who happens to have children. I don't particularly define myself based on my role of being a parent.
My current husband, 35 and childless, had options. He's very good-looking, smart, educated, charming, etc., and guess what? He married me, and I was a divorced mother of three.
What does having X number of kids have to do with the quote above? I am 29, and I have three kids fathered by my first husband, whom I was married to for a decade. So, what, exactly, are you implying here?
Perhaps she has certain, desirable qualities and attributes that other women, with or without children, do not possess?
Or, it's for the men who are attracted to a particular woman who happens to have children. I don't particularly define myself based on my role of being a parent.
My current husband, 35 and childless, had options. He's very good-looking, smart, educated, charming, etc., and guess what? He married me, and I was a divorced mother of three.
Three or four kids is a hell of a lot for a guy to take on. A lot of them won't want to, and I agree with them. YMMV.
Sorry, I don't believe in super duper special snowflakes (or "unicorns" as they're called elsewhere on the web). People are people, there is no woman with qualities and attributes desirable enough for me to want to get into a 3 or 4-child situation.
Well, there's no telling why your SO sold himself so short, only he can answer that.
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