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news flash! if you have to think about "something else" when having sex with someone to finish YOU ARE WITH THE WRONG PERSON. don't try to be a nice guy and lie to yourself, it isn't helping anyone
The problem is attraction. What you both said makes complete sense for earlier on in the relationship. While maybe she wasn't the best in bed, I was still able to enjoy myself because sex is sex. As the months have passed though, I just don't get as excited and therefore have a hard time getting by with the mindset of "sex is sex". There are more personal details I could give which would probably explain things a little better, but I was just looking to see if anyone has dealt with a problem similar to this.
If your were with a woman who you were passionately in love with, I guarantee you the sex would be much better.
From my experiences young women who are inexperienced tend to require a TONNE of positive reinforcement, it's hard work sometimes, many have sexual illnesses related to there self esteem and body issues.Just to get to see a bit of skin can take a LOT of encouragement, almost enough to sap your energy and turn you off sexually, So I can understand that.
Just to get to see a bit of skin can take a LOT of encouragement, almost enough to sap your energy and turn you off sexually, So I can understand that.
Yeah, especially considering that women used to wait until they were married before they had sex.
Wow! I thought I was the only man to ever go through this. My situation with my ex-wife was almost identical, right down to the hygiene issue (although her poor hygiene was at the back door not the front which is why I eventually flat our refused to do her doggy style, due to the odor). I'm sorry, I dont have any advice for you. I'm just still in shock.
What does she not know how to do? Unless were talking about oral or something to that extent. Just do your thing, and if she is on top I assume you have hands move her where you want to. Women like being told what to do during sex, mine does at least. If you can't climax just by doing the act of sex then there is a problem. I can understand if she is taking control and it isn't working for you, but if your doing the main job you should climax. I've been known to be a 5 minute man, but the second round.....now that is where we really get to town! Lol
Man. I totally get this. When I was single, there was one girl whom I saw for a while. Bright, funny, beautiful, but lacked self-confidence. So when it got down to brass tacks in the bedroom, the lack of confidence really came through. She would continuously ask me questions during the act regarding my well-being, comfort, and pleasure. Like every twenty seconds. So whenever we would have a rhythm going...BAM...she would interrupt things to ask how it was. I felt as if I were on an interview. Then when we were finished, she'd want to do a post-mortem to make sure she did things well.
I tried for several months. Did everything possible to make her feel at ease. But, no matter what, it become a chore all because the chemistry simply wasn't there.
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