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Old 01-05-2013, 12:28 PM
 
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I think if someone were to look at dating like a series of hoops you have to jump through in order to get ...whatever you are trying to get, it would get old and not fun.

But if you see it as a fun time and plan it with that in mind, it is fun for both.

I agree. Dating is supposed to be fun. When it's not fun, it's time to take a break.

However, in a way, I can see Robert's point. Some people look at dating as a means to an end, whether that end is a relationship, marriage, or sex. Given that men tend to be goal-oriented, I could see where they'd find it tedious after a while if their efforts didn't have any "results."

And let's be honest here, for a lot of them, "results" = "sex." Not saying that about Robert in particular, but that sometimes that is the case for men. I think if men look at dating as a means to that and they insist upon "quality" women, they're going to be sorely disappointed and most likely end up frustrated and fed up.
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Old 01-05-2013, 12:28 PM
 
Location: San Diego
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Why do many people equate spending money = dating? Or money = gifts as in the more the better.
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Old 01-05-2013, 12:28 PM
 
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Some dates I've been on can give an impression you're being grilled for your qualities. It feels like you have to constantly sell yourself to remain interesting.
What are the women generally like? Are they professional types? Looking specifically to start families? Is there no natural flow of conversation, at all?
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Old 01-05-2013, 12:29 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Some dates I've been on can give an impression you're being grilled for your qualities. It feels like you have to constantly sell yourself to remain interesting.

I agree with this and men aren't the only ones this happens to btw.
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Old 01-05-2013, 12:34 PM
 
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"ask not what your date can do for you but what can you do for your date". im not making any judgments here just that JFK's words came to mind...
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Old 01-05-2013, 12:37 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I am a woman and find the whole dating scene to be horrifying.
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Old 01-05-2013, 12:45 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I really think men don't enjoy dating. But women do. For men, take out that wallet for an investigative foray into the world of possibilities. For women, the movie and chicken Cordon Bleu are certainties.

I never thought about this until I lived in Atlanta and was involved in my north end parish full of transplants. The CAP I love to complain about would take about guys and sneer "He doesn't date much," as if a put down. (Many put downs came out of her mouth, actually.)

I have always viewed dating of the "getting to know" variety as a pain in the ass. Going out with someone you already know is fine.

Men and women, what do you think?
I TRULY am glad that I'm not out dating....... I really mean it.......

If Mrs. Chow wises up and leaves me, I'd still not want to be out there......




I don't like the small talk.... it feels silly to me....
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Old 01-05-2013, 12:47 PM
 
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Can't say that I missed dating in the last 5 or so years.

Can say that the dates I went on before getting into a relationship didn't feel like an interview.

if that's what dating is like for me, if I ever date again, I'll just stay single.
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Old 01-05-2013, 12:47 PM
 
Location: Atlanta & NYC
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I am a woman and find the whole dating scene to be horrifying.
I know I'm going to regret asking this, but why?
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Old 01-05-2013, 12:49 PM
 
Location: Houston, Tx
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I really think men don't enjoy dating. But women do. For men, take out that wallet for an investigative foray into the world of possibilities. For women, the movie and chicken Cordon Bleu are certainties.

I never thought about this until I lived in Atlanta and was involved in my north end parish full of transplants. The CAP I love to complain about would take about guys and sneer "He doesn't date much," as if a put down. (Many put downs came out of her mouth, actually.)

I have always viewed dating of the "getting to know" variety as a pain in the ass. Going out with someone you already know is fine.

Men and women, what do you think?
Of course women like dating, they hardly ever pay for anything! I think men look at dating as a necessary evil to get what they want.
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