An answer is sought - why would a single childless woman be upset by this? (wife, women)
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Maybe she was reacting to your perceived attitude more than your words. If you were really dismissive and made it sound like you felt ABOVE single moms, she may have been reacting to that.
Same people. I've told this story before, but got NO answers. So NOW, I am soliciting answers.
I went on a date with a woman I grew up with who was widowed at 33. She never had kids when married and I don't believe she could have them due to some health issues.
She asked about dating and this and that, and I said "I haven't dated single moms. Eh, I don't think I'd have that much in common with them." She retorts "Oh, REAALLLY." Her sister, a veritable Suzie Sorority (in fact, her sister's name WAS Suzie) had married a guy from college, and they set up a household in a nice part of Orange County where he worked, had two kids, and then divorced - then on to living with her two kids.
The date went downhill. When we got to the restaurant, she said "I'll pay. You paid last time." I said "Sure." I knew it was the end of the line. (I would have had a great last laugh if I left her at the restaurant, having her Daddy come fetch her).
At any rate, why would this anger a childless woman (who to date has never had a child) in this manner? I'd like to hear from both women and men.
Probably because :
a) like others have said her sister is a single mom and she may have other single moms in the family
b) she wishes she could have have children, and if it weren't for her health issues she would've also been a single mom too- since her husband died.
Some peoples attitudes towards single parents are horrendous maybe she didn't agree with your statement.
I don't know her sister, so I didn't pass judgment on her. I just know of her and some snippets of information about her. I wanted to ask how her sister's "marriage of equals" fell apart, but didn't. To this day, I wonder why that happened.
Stating you (indirectly) wouldn't date her sister because of the way her household is set up is not an insult. It's a preference.
Same people. I've told this story before, but got NO answers. So NOW, I am soliciting answers.
I went on a date with a woman I grew up with who was widowed at 33. She never had kids when married and I don't believe she could have them due to some health issues.
She asked about dating and this and that, and I said "I haven't dated single moms. Eh, I don't think I'd have that much in common with them." She retorts "Oh, REAALLLY." Her sister, a veritable Suzie Sorority (in fact, her sister's name WAS Suzie) had married a guy from college, and they set up a household in a nice part of Orange County where he worked, had two kids, and then divorced - then on to living with her two kids.
The date went downhill. When we got to the restaurant, she said "I'll pay. You paid last time." I said "Sure." I knew it was the end of the line. (I would have had a great last laugh if I left her at the restaurant, having her Daddy come fetch her).
At any rate, why would this anger a childless woman (who to date has never had a child) in this manner? I'd like to hear from both women and men.
All sorts of things can be read into by your saying: "Eh, I don't think I'd have much in common with them." When a simple -- "I have never dated a single mother" would do just the same.
So I assume she didn't like the way you said what you said, although I saw no reason for her to really get mad about it.
All sorts of things can be read into by your saying: "Eh, I don't think I'd have much in common with them." When a simple -- "I have never dated a single mother" would do just the same.
So I assume she didn't like the way you said what you said, although I saw no reason for her to really get mad about it.
This is what I was thinking... it sounded a lot like OP was passing judgement, even if he didn't think he was.
I felt the free meal was enough. But she acted like it was "forced" throughout the whole event.
It's a rough situation Robert. I try to see the other person's point of view. Now if I traveled back in time to the young me, I would of thought"Who cares lady! That's her not you! Single mom's deserve everything that happened to them."
Now though I know noone is untouched by karma. Try to see it through another's eyes.
This is what I was thinking... it sounded a lot like OP was passing judgement, even if he didn't think he was.
Maybe he doesn't have anything in common with them, who knows. I'm not sure how he would know that solely based on a single mother walking down the street or whatever. But I look at it if this date was a potential relationship choice for him he should maybe refrain from that kind of thing. Maybe she was raised by a single mother or something like that. It just was out of place, IMO, on a date.
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