An answer is sought - why would a single childless woman be upset by this? (dates, love)
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Same people. I've told this story before, but got NO answers. So NOW, I am soliciting answers.
I went on a date with a woman I grew up with who was widowed at 33. She never had kids when married and I don't believe she could have them due to some health issues.
She asked about dating and this and that, and I said "I haven't dated single moms. Eh, I don't think I'd have that much in common with them." She retorts "Oh, REAALLLY." Her sister, a veritable Suzie Sorority (in fact, her sister's name WAS Suzie) had married a guy from college, and they set up a household in a nice part of Orange County where he worked, had two kids, and then divorced - then on to living with her two kids.
The date went downhill. When we got to the restaurant, she said "I'll pay. You paid last time." I said "Sure." I knew it was the end of the line. (I would have had a great last laugh if I left her at the restaurant, having her Daddy come fetch her).
At any rate, why would this anger a childless woman (who to date has never had a child) in this manner? I'd like to hear from both women and men.
Hmmm, snarky. I have to wonder if she was subconsciously reacting to your overall vibe towards her.
So you had been out on a previous date with this woman?
Maybe she feels bad for her sisters situation because single moms have a hard time meeting guys. Men often give a blanket statement that they wont date single moms, which is very closed minded. Each person should take each situation individually.
If you met someone you really liked and had a lot in common, yet you did not know she had kids, would you stop liking her because she had kids?
Hmmm, snarky. I have to wonder if she was subconsciously reacting to your overall vibe towards her.
So you had been out on a previous date with this woman?
Yes. I knew her from when we were kids. My attitude of "having Daddy pick her up" only went through my mind after "Oh REEAALLLY," some 6 miles before arriving at the restaurant in the car.
I'll vote that she felt protective of women like her sister... or that you came off as putting down those women when explaining why you wouldn't date them.
I'm not sure why you are still perplexed after posting this last time.
I'll vote that she felt protective of women like her sister... or that you came off as putting down those women when explaining why you wouldn't date them.
I'm not sure why you are still perplexed after posting this last time.
Because I didn't get a succession of answers like I am getting this time. Last time, it was inserted in a thread, IIR. This time, the thread asks a question.
So:
1) empathy for her sister, which was the only one I could come up with, seeing how tight she is with her sister
2) projection that she most likely could not have a child
3) identifying that I am not "kid crazy"
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I have to wonder if she was subconsciously reacting to your overall vibe towards her. 
So, bigotry in what way?
