An answer is sought - why would a single childless woman be upset by this? (older, kids)
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I know there were times when I was with a guy and I came to the realization that I had no interest in him, when he made a comment, it was almost as if it was a turning point for me to kind of shut the idea of anything going anywhere with him. The premise was to make it obvious we weren't going to get along, so hopefully he wouldn't ask to go on a date with me or see me again.
So maybe it was something as simple as that she realized she didn't really want to date you again and this was her opportunity to shut it down from going anywhere beyond that current date?
Bigoted? She's lily white Irish-Catholic. So, bigotry in what way?
Judgmental? How is not wanting a complicated set-up judgmental?
First of all, it's got nothing to do with colour.
Second of all, you are pre-judging a single mother as having a "complicated set-up" which may or may not be the case.
That is called being a bigot.
bigot - a prejudiced person who is intolerant of any opinions differing from his own
prej·u·dice(prj-ds) n.1. a. An adverse judgment or opinion formed beforehand or without knowledge or examination of the facts. b. A preconceived preference or idea.
i wouldn't date a woman with kids. Too much drama!
OP- be happy this chick rejected you. she saved your a lot of time and energy. I wouldn't even lose sleep over it.
I TOTALLY agree. She didn't have kids - her sister did. Let me add more:
a) agree with Importer's Wife - she needed an "exit," and this was it
b) hates her Daddy - I met him, his face looked like a road map of capillaries, if you know what I mean
c) I learned nothing about her previous husband, except how much her Dad disliked him, what's that all about?
d) Mommy was a Southern belle from the coastal South
e) she told me that my verbal dexterity and vocabulary was weird, when no one else has
f) I saw her on Facebook and, well ...
g) she has remarried, to someone considerably older than her, and not at all her type
h) she has health problems - I have an idea, based on some childhood health issues, but never asked
i) she could not hold an analytical or philosophical conversation - incapable - very banal
Same people. I've told this story before, but got NO answers. So NOW, I am soliciting answers.
I went on a date with a woman I grew up with who was widowed at 33. She never had kids when married and I don't believe she could have them due to some health issues.
She asked about dating and this and that, and I said "I haven't dated single moms. Eh, I don't think I'd have that much in common with them." She retorts "Oh, REAALLLY." Her sister, a veritable Suzie Sorority (in fact, her sister's name WAS Suzie) had married a guy from college, and they set up a household in a nice part of Orange County where he worked, had two kids, and then divorced - then on to living with her two kids.
The date went downhill. When we got to the restaurant, she said "I'll pay. You paid last time." I said "Sure." I knew it was the end of the line. (I would have had a great last laugh if I left her at the restaurant, having her Daddy come fetch her).
At any rate, why would this anger a childless woman (who to date has never had a child) in this manner? I'd like to hear from both women and men.
I honestly don't get why you said - date went downhill. because she offered to pay?!!! honestly you americans can be confusing sometimes. with all the threads of guys asking when the women should pay on dates or men wanting to go dutch on 1st dates....
and here you are and all those posters agreeing with u, which i presume are also americans, that she offered to pay coz u upset her??!
aren't u supposed to be glad that she's not using u as meal tix?
really confused with your ' who does not pay, who pay meanings' scenarios.. here goes my head spinning like linda blair again in exorcist.
I notice that you leave yourself blameless in all these scenarios.
In the ones I write about, that's probably true. That's why I write about them. Because they are RIDICULOUS.
In this case, this chick did not like the person inside, and I can't change that, nor do I want to. I like people who like me for my personality in its current form, and they exist. She was higher on the peaches and cream scale, and that worked for me at the time.
As for the others I've written about, they are all about unilateral trespasses: one who was constantly attempting to set you up, one who is constantly selling religion to you, one who is active in her parish to look for a husband while putting all the guys down, yet lacking in "skills" (you should see who she ended up with - can you spell "learn to love?"), and another one who looks like Janet Napolitano, hates her Daddy, and defends the penultimate one because they have a genital tract in common; fortunately, she is not schooled in law.
I know there were times when I was with a guy and I came to the realization that I had no interest in him, when he made a comment, it was almost as if it was a turning point for me to kind of shut the idea of anything going anywhere with him. The premise was to make it obvious we weren't going to get along, so hopefully he wouldn't ask to go on a date with me or see me again.
So maybe it was something as simple as that she realized she didn't really want to date you again and this was her opportunity to shut it down from going anywhere beyond that current date?
I think this is the best answer the OP is going to get...she was looking for an out and took it!
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So, bigotry in what way?
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s) n. 1. a. An adverse judgment or opinion formed beforehand or without knowledge or examination of the facts.
