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Old 01-07-2013, 01:22 PM
 
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Maybe she was PMS-ing, sounds kind of irrational to get soooo upset over an innocent comment.
I think the previous answers covered it. She wanted a way out. I think the comment resonated in a weird way. You never know what will torque someone.

Growing up in SoCal, I've had dates where we talked about everything under the sun from LA to Palm Springs ... and while on the aerial tram ... and while eating ... and back. And I'm talking about intelligent conversation. Granted, she also lives in SoCal, but I was just amazed - how does one who was an A(-) student in HS, goes to a good college, then grow up to be an adult in such a "bizarre" cosmopolitan area and yet such a simpleton to talk to. I knew it wasn't going to work. Regardless, the comment was valid and did NOT exclude her. That's why I asked her out - same age, same religious background, educated, child free, and feminine. I'm wondering if her teaching 3rd graders for so long kind of "dumbed her down." I have always thought I would get along with school teachers. History has proven otherwise.
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Old 01-07-2013, 01:28 PM
 
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Because I didn't get a succession of answers like I am getting this time. Last time, it was inserted in a thread, IIR. This time, the thread asks a question.

So:
1) empathy for her sister, which was the only one I could come up with, seeing how tight she is with her sister
2) projection that she most likely could not have a child
3) identifying that I am not "kid crazy"

you deviated from her ideal script

perfect boyfriend™ has a firm grasp of what not to say, and would've been more sensitive towards single moms.
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Old 01-07-2013, 01:30 PM
 
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I think the previous answers covered it. She wanted a way out. I think the comment resonated in a weird way. You never know what will torque someone.
Right, which is why people with social grace do not go around passing judgment on entire groups of people. Ever hear the phrase, "SHH! He might BE one!"

Same logic applies. Tact and discretion are always in vogue.
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Old 01-07-2013, 01:36 PM
 
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you deviated from her ideal script

perfect boyfriend™ has a firm grasp of what not to say, and would've been more sensitive towards single moms.
Everyone's got things that push their buttons...they may not make sense but they're there. Mine is making fun of fat people, especially fat women. If a guy says something negative or calls a larger woman a name, date is over and I'm done.
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Old 01-07-2013, 01:37 PM
 
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Everyone's got things that push their buttons...they may not make sense but they're there. Mine is making fun of fat people, especially fat women. If a guy says something negative or calls a larger woman a name, date is over and I'm done.
i agree, that's why i only insult republicans, fat people and single moms over the anonymity of the internet.
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Old 01-07-2013, 01:38 PM
 
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I would guess she didn't like you, and used your answer as an excuse to reject you.
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Old 01-07-2013, 01:42 PM
 
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Right, which is why people with social grace do not go around passing judgment on entire groups of people. Ever hear the phrase, "SHH! He might BE one!"

Same logic applies. Tact and discretion are always in vogue.
Passing judgment and saying "eh, I don't know if that would work for me" are different things. Clearly, she chose to be defensive. Like I said, I've had lunch with plenty of single moms, and done the water cooler thing, but ... but ...

The same thing goes for the interracial thing. Most people in urban areas have all kinds of friends. However, they probably would not date some of their sisters. These friends know that, too. They don't end friendships over it. Same logic.
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Old 01-07-2013, 01:46 PM
 
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Passing judgment and saying "eh, I don't know if that would work for me" are different things.
in feelings-land, they are the same.

if you're in an argument, sure, they're different.
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Old 01-07-2013, 01:56 PM
 
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The date went downhill. When we got to the restaurant, she said "I'll pay. You paid last time." I said "Sure." I knew it was the end of the line. (I would have had a great last laugh if I left her at the restaurant, having her Daddy come fetch her).
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Sorry, I am an ESL guy so maybe theres something lost in translation, what "daddy" are you talking about?
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Old 01-07-2013, 01:59 PM
 
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Sorry, I am an ESL guy so maybe theres something lost in translation, what "daddy" are you talking about?
Her own father*, who lived about a mile from her. The restaurant would have meant a 6 mile drive to pick her up. However, I dropped the idea of such a prank since she paid for dinner. I figured she got a nice big life insurance check, anyway.

* el proprio padre de ella
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