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Old 01-08-2013, 07:14 PM
 
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We all hear the news of how many times certain celebrities have been married. When Elizabeth Taylor kicked the bucket, it was sort of "Eh." I didn't respect her.

However, we know some people in real life who have been married 4, 5, or 6 times. There are maps of state-by-state divorce rates. The Northeast seems to enjoy more marriage success. I would presume more of these "multi" people live in Nevada, for example.

I worked with a young lady whose mother was on her 5th marriage. This must have affected this chick, because she was the de facto #1 troublemaker there.

So, who marries these people for the umpteenth time?
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Old 01-08-2013, 07:55 PM
 
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My sister is on marriage number 4. About 8 years ago I asked if she thought he was the one and she said, "We'll see..."

I have been divorced once. If I don't make it the second time around, marriage is not for me I am thinking. A lot of lessons learned that first time around, I will tell you that!
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Old 01-08-2013, 08:17 PM
 
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I don't think I know anyone with multiple divorces.

For myself...if/when my marriage disolves (either by divorice or death) I would not get married again. Been there, done that and time to move on to something different.
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Old 01-08-2013, 08:23 PM
 
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I know too many people to count with multiple divorces. I don't know what happened in America between the 1940s -50s - 60s compared to today, but nobody takes marriage seriously anymore, and divorce is commonplace. Those of us that have never been married are just expected to accept those that have.
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Old 01-08-2013, 08:32 PM
 
Location: Austin
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My dad is on marriage #4. My sister on marriage #2 but isn't happy so I don't know how long it will last. She's a lot like my dad, though, so I know if she divorces she'll marry again. I'm with Sixty. If my marriage ends either by death or divorce, this is it for me. I've tried it and I don't want to try it again, not because I don't love my spouse and am unhappy, but because I'm not a fan of marriage in general. So this is my one shot.
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Old 01-08-2013, 08:33 PM
 
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My father has married and divorced 3 times. Finally figured out he was happiest single. He tended to target women who were a bit naiive.
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Old 01-08-2013, 08:33 PM
 
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My sister is on marriage number 4. About 8 years ago I asked if she thought he was the one and she said, "We'll see..."

I have been divorced once. If I don't make it the second time around, marriage is not for me I am thinking. A lot of lessons learned that first time around, I will tell you that!
I agree. Two strikes and hang it up. I think 2 failed marriages should tell people they are not marriage material. Some people know they are not marriage material, and do it anyway.

If your sister is on #4, and she's this cavalier about it, I'm curious about what would reel in her husbands.
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Old 01-08-2013, 08:34 PM
 
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I know too many people to count with multiple divorces. I don't know what happened in America between the 1940s -50s - 60s compared to today, but nobody takes marriage seriously anymore, and divorce is commonplace. Those of us that have never been married are just expected to accept those that have.
Interestingly enough, those with a series of marriages look down on those who have never married in a BIG WAY.
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Old 01-08-2013, 08:36 PM
 
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Interestingly enough, those with a series of marriages look down on those who have never married in a BIG WAY.
Exactly. I see this all too often ... "Oh he's 35? And he's never been married? What is WRONG with him?"
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Old 01-08-2013, 08:42 PM
 
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Generally I think it's an indicator of some pretty big problems with that person.

Reasons I've seen for this behavior:

1. Financial or personal gain

2. Trapping the spouse in a situation that is more difficult to leave before they really get to know you (includes the practical difficulties of getting a divorce and the difficulty most people naturally have in admitting they married the wrong person)

3. Hypocrisy in the strict adherence to only parts of personal, religious, or social codes (e.g. we can't have sex until we're married, but if it doesn't work out we'll just divorce)

4. Attention seeking (loves the celebration of the wedding, but not the actual marriage)

5. Generally being such an inadequate, bad, or abusive person that no one will stay with them for very long
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