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Old 01-09-2013, 02:43 PM
 
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Ok? Does that mean that you wouldn't date ANY black woman?
I've made enough posts on this thread indicating I'm one of the strongest believers in "types" on here, and that phenomenon was validated when in HS. So, I've played the "type" card and had it played on me.
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Old 01-09-2013, 02:48 PM
 
Location: The Pacific Northwest
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If you don't find one race as physically attractive as another, wouldn't that technically mean that you find them aesthetically inferior? I still don't think that makes someone a racist though.

"Aesthetically inferior?"

No.

Not just to my liking.

Again: there is no inferior or superior when it comes to personal choices; just preference.

My favorite color is purple. Does that mean I think blue is inferior?

Nope: just different.
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Old 01-09-2013, 02:51 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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I've made enough posts on this thread indicating I'm one of the strongest believers in "types" on here, and that phenomenon was validated when in HS. So, I've played the "type" card and had it played on me.
You didn't directly answer the question. I guess some people are much more specific with their "types" than others.
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Old 01-09-2013, 02:55 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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I don't think it is racist, closed-minded, or anything of the like. There should be nothing wrong with a white man or woman wanted to be with the same race, a black man or woman wanting to be with the same race, so on and so fourth.

I think it is very normal to prefer to be with your own race. Furthermore, many people have a preference to be with people of like skin color, hair color, etc. I am more attracted to people with dark hair. I have dark hair. I have white skin.

This does not mean that I would never refuse to be with someone of another race, it just means that I have a preference of my own race. Not a big deal, nor should it be.
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Old 01-09-2013, 03:00 PM
 
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I thought before you were saying that you're just not physically attracted to non-white women which is fine. If you're now saying that the main problem you had with this black woman is that you two had nothing in common, that's different. Not all black women have multiple children and baby daddies, you know.
That's what I was thinking as well. Someone can have more than just a malicious view on other races; they accept certain stereotypes as true based on their limited world view.
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Old 01-09-2013, 03:02 PM
 
Location: Sacramento, Ca.
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Speaking of preference, the power or opportunity of choosing. Or the act or principle of giving advantages to some over others is how I make choices. It is a personal option that helps in decision making. But having preferences does not have to exclude that which is not preferred. But when it does, there is a reason. For example, I prefer vanilla over chocolate. But I don't dislike chocolate or denounce people who do. And I will certainly choose it as a secondary option if no more are available. When dating, I don't seek women based on what color they are or not. But more importantly, I will decide on first contact, on how well we get along. White women seem to be more candid about their appreciation for what I represent. But that by no means, is cause for exclusion of any other category of women since variety still adds delicious variety to life.
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Old 01-09-2013, 03:07 PM
 
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I would say that the majority of people who would not date outside their race are racist.
so if you ONLY date outside your race, then what type of person are you?
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Old 01-09-2013, 03:12 PM
 
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You didn't directly answer the question. I guess some people are much more specific with their "types" than others.
White brunettes. That's fairly specific.
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Old 01-09-2013, 03:17 PM
 
Location: Yuma, Az
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will you call them racist?
I have always told people that the term "racist" is by definition pretty broad and is not necessarily all that heinous. What I am getting at is that if a person refuses to date outside his or her race for purely racial reasons, then it is "racist". I think Microsoft zillionaire Bill Gates started a foundation for poor blacks. By definition Gates is a racist in that he is making choices based on race. I think the best suggestion would be to forget race and go on some actual criteria when dating. That would build a better society and also take care of any trouble involving semantics.
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Old 01-09-2013, 03:36 PM
 
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Not all black women have multiple children and baby daddies, you know.
Yes, I know. Spare me the lecture. But this chick, Masters degree and all, managed to do just that. As was discussed in an Education thread, I learned the term "low demand" master's degree, as a way to pull a sheepskin from a name school. That's what she had. Her conversation skills were poor. During this lunch, I heard that she tried for the law school at one of the UCs. She was interviewed, meaning she must have been on the cusp. She was (rightfully) denied. I could not see her presenting a cogent argument for anything.

She was facially attractive and had kids from 2 black men. I figured she should be able to find another black man, given that she had done so before.
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