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Old 01-08-2013, 11:54 PM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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will you call them racist?
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Old 01-08-2013, 11:55 PM
 
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Personal preference.
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Old 01-08-2013, 11:57 PM
 
Location: Pa
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I think they may be unwilling to have an openmind.
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Old 01-08-2013, 11:57 PM
 
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Not racist, but probably not very bright either. With all the lovely races and ethnicities out there, how can you claim to only be attracted to one?
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Old 01-09-2013, 12:01 AM
 
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This isn't racist. Every one has physical preferences.
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Old 01-09-2013, 12:02 AM
 
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x+x=redundancy.
I think they favor the redundant.
Nothing wrong with redundant.
It comes with a sense of certainty.
It's a false sense, but a sense nontheless.
I can't blame a person for falling victim to their senses.
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Old 01-09-2013, 12:03 AM
 
Location: Relaxing with animals
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will you call them racist?
Nope.

I also think it's stupid to call them "close-minded". You cannot just force yourself to do something that is incompatible with your nature/disposition. And finding people attractive does not necessarily mean they are good candidates for relationships. It's natural to seek your own race and it makes a LOT of things easier for many people.
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Old 01-09-2013, 12:03 AM
 
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will you call them racist?
NO!

It's called follow what your pituitary gland tells you. When I was about 5 or 6, we were living overseas. There were these sisters who lived a few streets away. I asked one of them to come over. She said she couldn't (I don't think she wanted to, actually), but that her twin sister would. The bottom line is that the sister I asked was the fair skinned one and the one who came over was the olive skinned one. My parents NEVER said anything to me about the differentiation of skin tones and the anthropological implications of our ethnicity. That was just the one I asked to come over. At that age, you don't analyze things much.

Therefore, I get tired of this "gotta love everybody" argument. I say: whatever makes your third leg work (well, if you're a guy).

However, if you limit your friendships by virtue of race, then I would say that borders on being racist.
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Old 01-09-2013, 12:14 AM
 
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I wouldn't guess they were racist only based off that unless they revealed other signs. Nor would I think of them as "not very bright". What I am further about to say I am applying to dating and marriage only not friendship and acquaintances.

Personally, I think the chances of a relationship lasting are higher when both are of the same race. To me similarities and things in common are big parts of a relationship that are good, and race is a big part due to the further ethnic cultural baclgrounds that it includes and being from very different ones leads to some difficulties Id say. As a black male I dated a few white women, and a few hispanic but it didn't last long, any. General conversations worked but certain jokes and references weren't caught. Later the longest relationship was with a girl of the same ethnicity. Our conversations went smoother she caught jokes I made when referencing popular black movies and other things that we talked about. We both spoke the same language of our culture even though we're first generation American and other things like that sharing the same customs helped. It ended for other reasons.

I actually am more possible to giving the side-eye to those who exclusively date outside their race. I feel they usually aren't genuine with their feelings towards the person and just that theyre dating somene thats a different race is only important to them. Again, as a black male for example today amd even when I was younger most of the other black men I knew who dated white women fit into 3 categories:
1. They were ghetto and wanted to have a "snowbunny" under their arms to feel a sense of higher class
2. Their own self hatred of being black and like many other factors, distancing themselves from the race is any way included dating a white women/woman of race besides black
3. They actually genuinely likedthe girl /woman and they connected but she just happened to be the race she was.

I am not exclusively keeping this only to these 2 races but have seen this more and can speak from experience. And yes it goes both ways.
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Old 01-09-2013, 12:28 AM
 
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I have a lighter skinned black friend who would only date white women, preferably blondes, and as his clock was ticking, he finally settled on a brunette when he couldn't bag a blonde.

Aside from the parents, that preference seemed to be the norm in their family.
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