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Old 01-12-2013, 11:55 AM
 
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So sad. I liked the old way of dating and getting to know people. Not this confusing new school "hanging out" stuff.
Far too much pressure.
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Old 01-12-2013, 11:56 AM
 
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Far too much pressure.
So, most modern guys have wussed out?
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Old 01-12-2013, 11:59 AM
 
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Far too much pressure.
I think it's actually less pressure. I see people dating who both wait for the other to call because they're not even sure anymore who should call who, and people who "hang out" hoping it means romantic interest on the others' part but never being sure - in the old days it was much more clear cut and easier to know what the rules are, who was really interested, etc.
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Old 01-12-2013, 12:00 PM
 
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So, most modern guys have wussed out?
Working my ass off at school and work is enough pressure for me, or am I obligated to take on more? But good job taking a pot shot.
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Old 01-12-2013, 12:00 PM
 
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So, most modern guys have wussed out?
Why pay more (in your time and money) for something she gives away for free? Even if you attempt to date a woman like that to "get to know her", you feel like a fool, regardless.
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Old 01-12-2013, 12:04 PM
 
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Working my ass off at school and work is enough pressure for me, or am I obligated to take on more? But good job taking a pot shot.
"Taking on more" is only relevant to guys looking for a partner, whether short-term or otherwise.
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Old 01-12-2013, 12:06 PM
 
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Why pay more (in your time and money) for something she gives away for free? Even if you attempt to date a woman like that to "get to know her", you feel like a fool, regardless.
Whoa, whoa! "Dating" doesn't have to be about money, as the article mentioned. That has nothing to do with the "pressure" of asking someone on a date. Why would you feel like a fool, just asking her to coffee, or to study together?
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Old 01-12-2013, 12:16 PM
 
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Did you even read the article? It refers to courting as men picking up the phone to ask a woman for a date, and then actually taking her on a real date.

It's pretty on point. The younger people have no idea how to date, only hookup. And some older guys are taking advantage of that ignorance by going for the hookup with younger women who don't expect anything else.
This is why you'll see a growing number of guys not committing. Why commit to just one girl when I could go out and get a new one any day of the week?

As the old saying goes "Why buy the cow when we could get the milk for free?"
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Old 01-12-2013, 12:20 PM
 
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Whoa, whoa! "Dating" doesn't have to be about money, as the article mentioned. That has nothing to do with the "pressure" of asking someone on a date. Why would you feel like a fool, just asking her to coffee, or to study together?
Why I would feel like a fool? Because other guys were banging her without "getting to know her", asking for a date or paying 1 cent for coffee etc.. The ways of the liberated women make old fashioned butt sniffing quite foolish if not ridiculous.
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Old 01-12-2013, 12:24 PM
 
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Why I would feel like a fool? Because other guys were banging her without "getting to know her", asking for a date or paying 1 cent for coffee etc..
Fair enough. Go for the women who don't have other guys banging them. They're around. It's not like you don't have a choice.
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