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Old 01-14-2013, 12:05 PM
 
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Things the opposite sex has said that have made you pause and think?

Grammar sucks, by the way...

Seldomly, a girl says something that makes you consider your own thoughts. Very rarely, but it does happen...

For example.

Arguing over money the girl said "Money is a mentality". I immediately came up with "Yeah, but poor is a state". Till today, I have no idea if money is a mentality or a state. It swings both ways from time to time.

Arguing over whether we should take our relationships to the next level (she was against it, I was for it) a girl quipped "It's better to live your life solely in the moment than it is to dwell on the past or the future". We argued for days over that one, she wouldn't budge. I still think living purely in the moment leads to undesirable outcomes.

That's all that comes to mind..I wonder..has someone of the opposite sex made you think differently (in the context of relationships...)
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Old 01-14-2013, 12:12 PM
 
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Well, this is something said by a woman I know and DO NOT find attractive, who I know through being in similar work, in reference to an admin. asst. we know who is being boinked by the owner of a successful small engineering firm, and who is 15 years older, unremarkable, has kids, and has told her he will not be making a commitment to her. YET this girl hangs on.

About this, my friend says:
"He knows the drill."
"He shows her a good time."

Considering my friend is a fundamentalist Christian, this shouldn't resonate with her the way it does. Maybe she is living vicariously through this experience, since her brother-sister marriage leaves much to be desired. You can bet that I tell my friend she's an idiot, as is the girl being taken for a ride.

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Old 01-14-2013, 12:16 PM
 
Location: Chicagoland
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When I was younger, I used to get "You don't give a sh*t about anyone but yourself."
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Old 01-14-2013, 12:22 PM
 
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When I was younger, I used to get "You don't give a sh*t about anyone but yourself."
I still get that from time to time...that I'm a narcissist.
Still, I haven't really given it much thought...being narcissistic is the least of my worries.
Same with "You always think you're right!"...
I'm like "Well duh, if I thought I was wrong, then I'd stop thinking what I was thinking..."
Again though, I haven't thought too much about it...seems like they're projecting something about themselves on to me since it's always said when they're being overly emotional....

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Old 01-14-2013, 12:31 PM
 
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When I was younger, I used to get "You don't give a sh*t about anyone but yourself."

Oh heck, I still get that. I reply with, "You're damn right!"

So far, this year is calmer. *knocks on wood err, my head*

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Old 01-14-2013, 12:38 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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Yes, women have definitely made me think.

I used to give the old "nice guys finish last" cliche all the time. Women have since convinced me that being "too nice" is simply an excuse guys use to cover up other unattractive traits.

I now realize that the reason women do not find me attractive is because i'm clingy and i need a lot of attention. It still sucks getting rejected. But no guy gets rejected because they treat women too well. If a guy is getting rejected, there are other features that the woman finds unattractive. In my opinion, women of average looks are unreasonably picky, and they will reject guys for all kinds of reasons. But it's very unlikely that any of these reasons are because the guy is too nice.

So women have made me think a lot about that issue.
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Old 01-14-2013, 01:10 PM
 
Location: Atlanta & NYC
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I had a girlfriend who pronounced salmon as SAL-man. Like the Italian name. I would just facepalm and walk away.
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Old 01-14-2013, 01:15 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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I once had a girlfriend who joked about me being her sugar daddy. Needless to say, she and I didn't last much longer after that....
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Old 01-14-2013, 01:21 PM
 
Location: The Pacific Northwest
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When I was dating my ex before we got married, as she was dressing-up to go out, she once remarked, "I dress for women, not men." (She was a total fashion-maven, BTW).

This surpised me at the time, and was an introduction into the understanding of the whole "catty & competitive" weird world of women. It's all sort of a big game for them to see who can land the hottest or richest dude.
And then there's the bi-curious element they got going on too.
Seems like they spend more time thinking about each other then they do men.
Theirs is a very insular world, rife with secrets and longings and feminine mystique, that no man can ever hope to understand.
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Old 01-14-2013, 01:35 PM
 
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I've had 2 people tell me "I really like you, but I get the feeling you don't want me to."

I really liked one of them, so it sucked to hear that. I try to be more thoughtful and open with men I care about now.
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