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If I had one "useless" superpower, though I guess it could be considered useful even if it doesn't do anything flashy like shooting lasers from your eyes or flying, would be to immediately identify whether somebody is single or not. I am reeling from finding out that yet another girl that I was attracted to and wanted to ask out already has a boyfriend and has been going out with said guy for just over two years. Her Facebook page (I am friends with her) doesn't have a relationship status on her about me, and she doesn't really have any pictures where you can obviously tell that she is with somebody. I found out from talking to a mutual friend of mine, as I wanted to know if she was single before making a move on her.
Blargh. This is the fourth (or was it fifth? I lost count) time in a row that I either asked somebody out who was already taken or found out that she was already taken before I made a move. On the couple of occasions that I asked somebody out of whom I am connected with on facebook, they had no relationship status listed. In one of those cases, the woman was single but was still emotionally "connected" to her ex, and they wound up getting back together a couple months later. Again, I had no idea that they were taken when I was going to ask them out; I don't intentionally look for taken women.
And in case you're curious, the type of woman that I usually go for, and the general characteristics of those I asked out, is someone who is intelligent, quirky, nerdy and artistic. I don't go after the "model" types that are more than likely to be already taken. The most recent girl was tall, had glasses, loves independent cinema, plays Skyrim and is a saxophonist.
Again, just a rant, but man do I feel embarrassed when I ask out somebody who is already taken. I wonder if that means anything.
Facebook statuses don't mean much at all, especially if you're not someone who is invested in your FB page. Maybe part of the problem is being FB "friends" with people who aren't actually friends, because if they were, you'd know their relationship status.
But yes it is very frustrating when you don't know someone's relationship status. At least you had someone to ask about her before you actually asked her out.
I really don't think you should ever be embarrassed if you ask someone out who is already in a relationship. It's flattering to them even if it's disappointing to you. And you can't tell these things just by looking at someone. Good luck in your search!
Facebook statuses don't mean much at all, especially if you're not someone who is invested in your FB page. Maybe part of the problem is being FB "friends" with people who aren't actually friends, because if they were, you'd know their relationship status.
But yes it is very frustrating when you don't know someone's relationship status. At least you had someone to ask about her before you actually asked her out.
I really don't think you should ever be embarrassed if you ask someone out who is already in a relationship. It's flattering to them even if it's disappointing to you. And you can't tell these things just by looking at someone. Good luck in your search!
That's a good point. In the case of the most recent girl (who didn't have a relationship status on her page,) she was more of an acquaintance than a friend; each time I hung out with her was via other friends throwing a get-together or hanging out at some location. As she is heavily into music, my "date" idea was to take her to a jazz concert at a nice performing arts center.
if I had a stuper power, I'd hope to have the power to glow in the dark.
Consider me stupefied, Prince. LOL
OP, I suppose some people use facebook for dating - I must be too old to try that, and I hardly ever even look at it (waste of valuable time, IMO). However, from what I know of it, it does not seem designed for that purpose. I think it's better to date in "real" life, or use a dedicated online dating site.
At least you cared to look at relationship status. I don't know what to make of the men that approach me on FB. I clearly state 'married' and guys I have zero connections to message me.
I don't think facebook is such a bad place to date from if you already 'know' them to some degree. Usually there are clues about whether they are single. But of course, not everyone is all that invested in their page. I haven't been on there in about a year. Which reminds me I should actually check it at some point.
If I had one "useless" superpower, though I guess it could be considered useful even if it doesn't do anything flashy like shooting lasers from your eyes or flying, would be to immediately identify whether somebody is single or not. I am reeling from finding out that yet another girl that I was attracted to and wanted to ask out already has a boyfriend and has been going out with said guy for just over two years. Her Facebook page (I am friends with her) doesn't have a relationship status on her about me, and she doesn't really have any pictures where you can obviously tell that she is with somebody. I found out from talking to a mutual friend of mine, as I wanted to know if she was single before making a move on her.
Blargh. This is the fourth (or was it fifth? I lost count) time in a row that I either asked somebody out who was already taken or found out that she was already taken before I made a move. On the couple of occasions that I asked somebody out of whom I am connected with on facebook, they had no relationship status listed. In one of those cases, the woman was single but was still emotionally "connected" to her ex, and they wound up getting back together a couple months later. Again, I had no idea that they were taken when I was going to ask them out; I don't intentionally look for taken women.
And in case you're curious, the type of woman that I usually go for, and the general characteristics of those I asked out, is someone who is intelligent, quirky, nerdy and artistic. I don't go after the "model" types that are more than likely to be already taken. The most recent girl was tall, had glasses, loves independent cinema, plays Skyrim and is a saxophonist.
Again, just a rant, but man do I feel embarrassed when I ask out somebody who is already taken. I wonder if that means anything.
Oh well, to the gym to work this rant off!
Dang, that sucks and I totally know the feeling!
This gets worse as you get older as more and more people become already taken.
I think it means you have good taste in women Gatsby (problem is, others did too). Keep asking women out. You'll find someone
For a while I had this theory that men are attracted to women in relationships without them knowing it. Seriously, I am asked out and hit on a whole lot more when I am in a relationship than when I am not. I thought maybe I have a kind of confidence or happiness about me when I am in a relationship that makes me more attractive. It's kind of weird and uncanny.
Also, if I may clarify, when I say that I look at a potential's date relationship status on their Facebook pages, these are people that I have already met in person and at least somewhat know personally. I don't randomly search Facebook for potential dates nor do I add people that I don't know. In other words, I don't use Facebook to find dates, but rather to see if somebody I already know is single or taken, and something that I have noticed is that more women (and to an extent, men) do not publish their relationship status, even amongst friends.
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