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I've met a few girls on the internet who seem to have no friends (apart from online ones), no social life, who are basically hermits, who still have boyfriends who they seem to spend a lot of their time with. On the other hand, I've never met a man with no friends who has a girlfriend. Do you think women are more judgemental on men who have no friends are total loners? Men seem to have fewer requirements about women aside from the physical and basic personality traits, whereas women seem to judge men a lot on the company they keep.
Do the vast majority of women steer clear of 'loners' even if they meet the other requirements? Do they seem them as either weird/creepy/or socially inept?
Or maybe guys who are loners just tend to lack the social skills to be good at dating to start with, maybe that's more it.
But again, it seems less a problem for girls. Girls can be super-shy and be approached all the time and still have a boyfriend.
I would think a large part of it has to do with attractive qualities. A physically attractive woman with positive personality traits (who's also a loner) is going to have more opportunities to date than a man who's the opposite of that.
Also, the woman had to put herself out there. Anyone who does his/her best to avoid interacting with the world is going to have trouble meeting people. Back in my single days I wouldn't have approached a woman who didn't look like she wanted to talk.
If also depends on why someone's a loner and if he/she doesn't have any friends vs. just not having any friends living close.
Eh, I'm a bit of a loner but never really have trouble meeting or dating woman. I do have one or two close friends from growing up, but I've moved, but even then, thats fine. I'm a loner.
It doesn't mean I lack social skills, hygiene or whatever. I would also consider myself successful at work partly because I work so well with others. I choose my "loner/no friends" life style.
I've been a loner and I've been social. I'm now pretty social and I think it's ten times better than being a loner, so I don't think I'd be able to be with a guy with no friends. In my loner days, I dated a guy who was also a loner. It was pretty frickin boring sometimes because we would just hang out with each other all the stupid time.
I'm really shy so naturally I don't have a gaggle of friends. I couldn't date someone shy or introverted. Dating myself would be boring and I would never get out of my comfort zone.
Different strokes for different folks... I think men and women are about the same. A person that's hung up on how many friends their romantic interest has, is probably more concerned about what their romantic interest can do for them.
I'd be skeptical of a guy with no friends. I met a few guys on match who didn't have a lot of friends in the area because they were new to town which is totally different than someone who just flat out has no friends. The other problem dating someone with no or few friends is that they have too much time on their hands. I think having a life outside of the relationship is important.
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