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95% of guys I know who have a girlfriend just get lucky about it. They mainly meet somebody through friends or a co-worker or something. I don't think I know any guy who has a consistent stream of women who are interested in him...and I have a good number of friends who are very handsome/friendly/likable
How the hell do guys date multiple girls at a time? Do they just go out and start cold approaching every girl in sight knowing that they're going to get rejected the overwhelming majority of the time?
Aren't most women very defensive and completely disinterested when it comes to meeting men that are not in their most immediate social circle?
95% of guys I know who have a girlfriend just get lucky about it. They mainly meet somebody through friends or a co-worker or something. I don't think I know any guy who has a consistent stream of women who are interested in him...and I have a good number of friends who are very handsome/friendly/likable
How the hell do guys date multiple girls at a time? Do they just go out and start cold approaching every girl in sight knowing that they're going to get rejected the overwhelming majority of the time?
Aren't most women very defensive and completely disinterested when it comes to meeting men that are not in their most immediate social circle?
Players do not hit on random women. Players seek out women who are needy or naive, insecure or inexperienced. Players see male/female relationships as predator/prey interactions. They enjoy being able to fool and humiliate women, and seek out women who are vulnerable to manipulation. Players actually hate women. Players behave as they do at least as much for ego gratification as for sexual gratification. They accept a narrative of manliness that requires "real men" to be forever on the prowl, always looking for the next sexual opportunity. They do it to impress themselves and their males peer, from whom they desperately need approval.
This is sexist, as if only men are promiscuous. But the ones who are, are of of the same mindset as loose women: Because they are single and wish to remain that way. Many either lack the courage to share their additional pursuits or simply dont wish to contend with the confrontation. Is it dishonest hurtful or selfish? Sure. But also part of the dating game when you swim with sharks. Not pretty. Sorry. But part of the self-indulgent landscape called single life.
Players do not hit on random women. Players seek out women who are needy or naive, insecure or inexperienced. Players see male/female relationships as predator/prey interactions. They enjoy being able to fool and humiliate women, and seek out women who are vulnerable to manipulation. Players actually hate women. Players behave as they do at least as much for ego gratification as for sexual gratification. They accept a narrative of manliness that requires "real men" to be forever on the prowl, always looking for the next sexual opportunity. They do it to impress themselves and their males peer, from whom they desperately need approval.
This is a really interesting post, some of which I agree with ... and some of which I don't agree with.
I think some like women, but just don't analyze why they're doing it. They're not processing it fully. They will ideally get past that stage. Some players stop playing, and settle down. Sometimes, they do it just because they can. Some players don't even have to "play" that much. Some women make themselves available. I'm thinking of one beautiful girl I went to college with who "couldn't help herself" and slept with anyone who met her fairly high standards. She also had a problem with keeping her marriages intact.
Then, as you say, that validation is exactly what's going on. It's validation that women find them attractive, and their self-worth depends on it. It is a pat on one's back, and a desire to be patted on the back from one's peers. I've known people who were forever on the prowl, and their stories were interesting, but they had a one-track mind.
Players do not hit on random women. Players seek out women who are needy or naive, insecure or inexperienced. Players see male/female relationships as predator/prey interactions. They enjoy being able to fool and humiliate women, and seek out women who are vulnerable to manipulation. Players actually hate women. Players behave as they do at least as much for ego gratification as for sexual gratification. They accept a narrative of manliness that requires "real men" to be forever on the prowl, always looking for the next sexual opportunity. They do it to impress themselves and their males peer, from whom they desperately need approval.
I don't like the term "player."
That term assumes that the guy is playing games with girls (ie: lying) to get them into bed when that's the furthest thing from the truth. Just because a guy is promiscuis doesn't mean that he's tricking girls.
Girls like sex too.
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