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Much better. He doesn't GET to dictate the rules. You should have some say in this, and not kowtow to his demands. Because, that's what they are: demands. You need to tell him in your text that this needs to be discussed. Now. Not on the 24th, but right now. If he can't/won't do that, then this relationship needs to be over.
You act like you want to fight for this. That is a mistake.
You don't owe him any explanation either if you pass on him. In fact, I'd discourage any discussion about it.
You saying he is not worth fighting for? So you saying I should not even try to discuss things with him? Why you say that? I don't know if I'm just blinded by love coz I don't see why most of you are so against him.
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It's not like he's going to change.
(he didn't for his son)
Why did you say that? He told me he does not want to divorce his wife. He even suggested an outside help but his wife refused. She was the one who left him. Not the other way around.
Much better. He doesn't GET to dictate the rules. You should have some say in this, and not kowtow to his demands. Because, that's what they are: demands. You need to tell him in your text that this needs to be discussed. Now. Not on the 24th, but right now. If he can't/won't do that, then this relationship needs to be over.
Stand up for yourself.
I dunno why he is being labeled the 'dictator'. If he is really a dictator then he will demand/force me to sleep with him anytime he wants. But no. He has always been very respectful on that part. He definitely does not get his way every time. I dictate if I want to sleep with him or not. Even if he wants to, he does not force me to if I don't want to. I have proof to those few times I am at his place and when I spent the weekend at his place.
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You saying he is not worth fighting for? So you saying I should not even try to discuss things with him? Why you say that? I don't know if I'm just blinded by love coz I don't see why most of you are so against him.
Why did you say that? He told me he does not want to divorce his wife. He even suggested an outside help but his wife refused. She was the one who left him. Not the other way around.
I dunno why he is being labeled the 'dictator'. If he is really a dictator then he will force me to sleep with him anytime he wants. But no. He has always been very respectful on that part. He definitely does not get his way every time. I dictate if I want to sleep with him or not. Even if he wants to, he does not force me to if I don't want to. I have proof to those few times I am at his place and when I spent the weekend at his place.
That's not a dictator, that's an abuser.
He's dictating the rules here. The only rule you've ever had was not sleeping with him, and my guess is he's trying to break that rule by promising to marry you.
He's dictating the rules here. The only rule you've ever had was not sleeping with him, and my guess is he's trying to break that rule by promising to marry you.
What?!! How is that an abuser? Wow. We already slept together. Because well I want to. But the 2nd night, he want to again but, I was not in the mood so he didn't get any. LOL. Well we cuddled.
NO! LOL. They have been divorced for 16 years and he is still hurting from it.
If you're going to feel sorry for him about his emotional baggage then you need to do it all the way and stop asking about red flags. If you're going to note the problems, then do that all the way too. We can't fight your battles for you, especially when you want to sit on the fence.
I have a friend who does this. She wastes hours and hours of my time going in circles but now I know right away when she's doing that.
"Forcing" you to sleep with him anytime he wants isn't an abuser? Really?
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