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Instead of focusing on the negatives, being weird or whatever it may be, you should turn that around and focus on the positives. What are your good qualities? What do you like about yourself? What do you have to offer a woman in a relationship?
Exactly. And, hone that uniqueness. If you are funny, be funny. If you have interests, spend time honing those skills, attending functions or gatherings specific to those interests. That will increase the odds that you'll find other with similar interests. That is what real relationships are made of...Find people like you...Not people you like. You'll be ok...just be you!
People who talk about being too weird tend to be too self-involved, and that is the real reason they repel potential mates. It is no different than if the thread said, "Am I too beautiful" or "Am I too smart" - it's taking a personal attribute and elevating it as something so special other people can't handle it. Stop focusing on yourself so much, and instead use some of that time to focus on the people you meet.
Kramer got a LOT of hot women. Did you actully watch the show? Maybe you could earn something from him. He had a ton of confidence and was 100% happy with himself.
Or maybe focus on why you are "weird"? I had undiagnosed ADD - didn't even suspect until my mid-20s. Once I studied up on it, I realized what many of my more "offputting" habits were and worked on correcting them. I'm pretty social now. My dating life isn't always great, but I'm surrounded by friends. Oh, and if you're "weird," you should totally get a part-time gig in a bookstore. That's where all the fun weird people work. Trust me on this
What if you're only SLIGHTLY weird ... and not at all granola?
As for the OP, it reduces your pool, but doesn't eliminate it. The other thing is that people might say "well, find a similarly weird girl." The reality is that guys are weird in one way and girls are weird in another, so it's not always as smooth a match as one might envision.
As for the OP, it reduces your pool, but doesn't eliminate it. The other thing is that people might say "well, find a similarly weird girl." The reality is that guys are weird in one way and girls are weird in another, so it's not always as smooth a match as one might envision.
Exactly. I feel like some people are so weird that there's no possible match for them.
Or is that just another excuse? I know there's weird girls out there too, but I feel like some people are so weird that there's no match for them. And the whole "you just need to find the right girl/guy" excuse doesn't apply to these kind of people. A few people have said I resemble from Kramer from Seinfeld. I know he's a fictional character, but as you know if you watch the show, he was perpetually single and in my opinion it was due to his weirdness. So what do you guys think?
Most people don't like things that aren't mainstream.
People that aren't mainstream in looks, height, interests, finances, etc. have a significant disadvantage.
For guys though, personality matters the most. So having a non-mainstream personality is a HUGE disadvantage. Sorry, but that's the truth.
Exactly. I feel like some people are so weird that there's no possible match for them.
I've actually known a lot of people like this in my life, including one of my Uncles and a few older friends. They're just...odd, and none of them have been in a long term relationship or married and I believe it's mostly because of their habits and hobbies.
Is there someone out there for everyone? Probably not. But I do think most people will find someone who is just as weird as they are.
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