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My husband was attracted to me with a 9 1/2 year age gap without me looking younger than I am. People are attracted to whom they are attracted to and sometimes there is neither rhyme nor reason. Guys date much younger women and much older women for their own reasons, just like women do.
I have a friend who has a younger brother. Part of the problem is that they came from a matriarchal Hispanic family where all of the men had been castrated. The younger brother, who was an excellent student at a major West Coast university, at age 18 was ACCOSTED by a 35 year old divorcee with a couple of kids. It was like the Mary Kay LeTourneau story, minus the illegality. He reneged on additional education to achieve the goal he set at the beginning of college, and married this woman who had a noose over him. He is VERY regretful he took that path. He now wishes he hadn't married her, and that he had gone on to professional school. He would have done so at age 22.
If there's anything good that came out of this thread, IMO, it's that I now understand Djuna even better.
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I respect all your points of view, which are valid and reasonable. I would have never thought of either dating someone much older or much younger, but sometimes you cannot say "I would never...." because kharma kicks in and shows you otherwise. Since my younger years in college, always the younger men seemed to be attracted to me, I would be attracted to guys my age or older. Sometimes I regret not giving the chance to any of these younger guys, and may be they could have been a good fit with me and be great companions. I have never been married, nor have kids, and I am looking at this point in my life ,to find a guy who values me as a person and not for what I look like, how old i am or what I have. I dated an older guy and got really dissapointed, he was the most immature and selfish human being I ever met. I also think that if I get involved with a younger guy , in 10-20 yrs from now, I may not look attractive or young as I am now. But , most importantly, beauty gets boring after a while, and even the most gorgeous guy with no personality will not be able to keep my interest for too long. Thank you guys, for your input, is always good to hear what others have to say, because is hard sometimes to see things beyond your own perspective.
Few months ago, a new guy started at my company. He is very attractive but I found him too young for me. The thing is that I noticed that he gets very shy with me, greeting me with his head down looking to the floor and even ignoring me for no reason... I never flirted with him , always being friendly and kind... The other day I initiated a casual conversation with him, he gave me this glance over(you know the Up and down look) and smiled at me, and seemed sort of nervous. Or if I try to start a friendly chat with him he looks into my eyes and smiles...I'm sure he knows that i'm older than him, but not sure if he is afraid of me, or just wants to hide his feelings??? He asked me casually if I had plans for the weekend , which I replied with: " no nothing important". Did he want to find out if i had a bf or was he asking me out indirectly??? I am afraid that the age difference will be refraining him from trying to show his true intentions!!! Your opinions are welcome...
Honestly I don't think 10 years a big age difference when you become an adult. Good luck
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