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Lets say a guy has more than one girl on the go, in purely casual relationships.
One of the girls finds out, about one of the other girls, yet she doesn't see it as a major and continues seeing the guy.
A girl/woman who operates like this, fair to say its rare? most would part ways finding out about another, when an open relationship or not had never been discussed prior to her finding out.
Lets say a guy has more than one girl on the go, in purely casual relationships.
One of the girls finds out, about one of the other girls, yet she doesn't see it as a major and continues seeing the guy.
A girl/woman who operates like this, fair to say its rare? most would part ways finding out about another, when an open relationship or not had never been discussed prior to her finding out.
Yeah, pretty rare.
Not because the guy was seeing other women--plenty of happy non-monogamous relationships exist--but because he didn't tell her about. That is a major slap in the face. It is a lie by omission--i.e. he hid critical information from her, knowing that by do so she would make false assumptions about what was really going on.
Like it or not, monogamy is the standard in our culture. Most people in relationships will assume their partner is monogamous unless they are told otherwise. Calling a relationship "purely casual" doesn't change that fact. Non-monogamous people--and I am one of them--have a responsibility to at least be honest about how we choose to live our lives. And that choice also means we accept the fact that a great many potential partners will reject us because we are non-monogamous. To be non-monogamous on the sly is cowardly and deceitful.
I don't think it's that rare. I often "multi-dated" but I was also up-front about it if there was any chance I'd continue to want to date more than one. If it was an initial date, perhaps not, as there were very few initial dates that I wanted to see again and I (almost) never had sex on a first date.
I am content to do monogamy if the situation warrants, but surprisingly, it wasn't often expected or asked for. I tended to meet very educated and independent women, so perhaps their attitudes were less conventional than most. They were free to date others as well, and usually did. Only when we were mutually sure that we wanted total exclusivity did it become a topic for further discussion and decision.
If there was honesty from the beginning, not a big deal.
A woman who's ok with the scenario you described, IMO, doesn't have much self esteem or worth. Or maybe she isn't really into the guy and doesn't care who he sees.
Lets say a guy has more than one girl on the go, in purely casual relationships.
One of the girls finds out, about one of the other girls, yet she doesn't see it as a major and continues seeing the guy.
A girl/woman who operates like this, fair to say its rare? most would part ways finding out about another, when an open relationship or not had never been discussed prior to her finding out.
Lets say a guy has more than one girl on the go, in purely casual relationships.
One of the girls finds out, about one of the other girls, yet she doesn't see it as a major and continues seeing the guy.
A girl/woman who operates like this, fair to say its rare? most would part ways finding out about another, when an open relationship or not had never been discussed prior to her finding out.
I don't really understand the question. A casual relationship is, by default, not committed. Unless someone's lying to someone, somewhere.
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