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I've heard so called nice guys complaining about "finishing last" all the time, but I am wondering if they actual realize that they are not very nice.
For example, I found so called nice guys always have this "victim" mentality which I found to be very annoying.
They claim:
I don't drink - but they have no problems complaining their girlfriend have a drinking problem. (turned out the girl only drinks socially)
I respect my parents - turn out they are still living with their parents and when girl asked the legitimate question, "when will you be independent" The dude immediately got defensive and accused of the girl of being "disrespectful"
I don't go out - turn out they are suffering from social phobia, have absolutely no abilities to social with anybody
Here is the ultimate,
ALl women want jerks, are shallow, are materialistic, like to be abused. It is all women's fault, not mine.
So when people tell me they are nice guy who finishes last, this is a red flag to me. What are your thoughts?
Haha nice guy is another way to call someone a loser. I think it's just another excuse for why they can't get a girl. It's a way of putting blame on other people rather than figuring out what's wrong with themselves.
Haha nice guy is another way to call someone a loser. I think it's just another excuse for why they can't get a girl. It's a way of putting blame on other people rather than figuring out what's wrong with themselves.
I've heard so called nice guys complaining about "finishing last" all the time, but I am wondering if they actual realize that they are not very nice.
For example, I found so called nice guys always have this "victim" mentality which I found to be very annoying.
They claim:
I don't drink - but they have no problems complaining their girlfriend have a drinking problem. (turned out the girl only drinks socially)
I respect my parents - turn out they are still living with their parents and when girl asked the legitimate question, "when will you be independent" The dude immediately got defensive and accused of the girl of being "disrespectful"
I don't go out - turn out they are suffering from social phobia, have absolutely no abilities to social with anybody
Here is the ultimate,
ALl women want jerks, are shallow, are materialistic, like to be abused. It is all women's fault, not mine.
So when people tell me they are nice guy who finishes last, this is a red flag to me. What are your thoughts?
OP, you left out the clincher:
I want a "nice" girl. Translation: I want a woman who accepts Sharia Law.
lol!
Yeah, I've met quite a few guys who are actually either passive-aggressive or very insecure (and act like doormats) who think they're "nice." Like guys who will do favors for you (often things you didn't ask them to do) and then act like you owe them something. And others who are genuinely nice but don't seem to understand that there's more to attraction and a fulfilling relationship than that. I don't get the attitude from some guys that you either have to be a doormat or a jerk. I guess being a one-dimensional character is easier for some people than actually developing an interesting personality.
I don't know you. But far as I'm concerned, there are no nice guys, sorry to tell you that. eventually all show their true colors.
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